Prenuptial Agreements

ladies would be lucky to marry me. i just tell them to sign over 100 percent of their meager posessions before the wedding.

what am i talking about? i dont get married.

why does it have to be a trust issue? perhaps I'm naive, but if there's trouble abrewin' from the mention of a prenup, perhaps the relationship isn't strong enough to consider marriage...

That's it exactly.

I could maybe understand it if you were a multi-millionaire or something and had alot of assets, but otherwise I don't really think it's necessary.

why does it have to be a trust issue? perhaps I'm naive, but if there's trouble abrewin' from the mention of a prenup, perhaps the relationship isn't strong enough to consider marriage...

I think you hit it on the head. If a prenup is even entering the discussion, then the relationship is probably doomed from the start. Believing a prenup may be needed (even if only as a "just in case"), shows trust issues in a relationship to begin with.

Successful marriages are based on a lot of things, trust being a big one. If you find yourself thinking about a prenup before getting down on one knee, I'd say it's time to go back and think about whether you should be proposing in the first place.

Actually I think the number one issue for divorce is due to money and/or arguments over money...so if you eliminate the arguement over money what's the issue? I personally don't have one, but if were asked wouldn't worry about it too much as you are eliminating the number one marriage killer (outside of Redskin football!!!).

I signed one that if we split she had to take all of our junk. I'm tired of moving it. I do get to keep the boat, fishing equipment, and car. LOL

Actually I think the number one issue for divorce is due to money and/or arguments over money...so if you eliminate the arguement over money what's the issue? I personally don't have one, but if were asked wouldn't worry about it too much as you are eliminating the number one marriage killer (outside of Redskin football!!!).

Divorces aren't caused by how the money will be split in the event of a divorce. Divorces over money usually result from not being on the same page with spending habits. Like when one spouse is a spender and the other is a saver. A lot of the time the partners can't come to an agreement on where the financial priorities should be (should we buy the Lexus or save for retirement, take the trip to Europe or save for our kids' college). That's the kind of thing that causes divorces. Prenups only help protect assets in the event of divorce. I've never heard of one that controls how each spouse can spend money when married to each other.

I believe that if you think a prenuptual agreement is necessary, you are marrying the wrong person and shouldn't get married at all.

Marriage is intended to be a life-long committment and if you're already planning for it's failure, you shouldn't start it in the first place.

It shows a lack of trust in my opinion.

Divorces aren't caused by how the money will be split in the event of a divorce. Divorces over money usually result from not being on the same page with spending habits. Like when one spouse is a spender and the other is a saver. A lot of the time the partners can't come to an agreement on where the financial priorities should be (should we buy the Lexus or save for retirement, take the trip to Europe or save for our kids' college). That's the kind of thing that causes divorces. Prenups only help protect assets in the event of divorce. I've never heard of one that controls how each spouse can spend money when married to each other.

That is what I meant Schneed - not implying that it controlled how money can be spent. I was implying that it already takes care of how it will be split should something happen and the divorce rate over money issues during the marriage are lowered because there is no question on who gets what when a prenup is done. Hell, if there was an agreement on who can spend what, where and how....that would be insane, that's too much like capitalism rather than a marriage!

capitalism? maybe more like a congressional budgeting committee, but 80 pages of budgeting agreements really don't encapsulate capitalism's main tenet of supply and demand all that well. socialist set budgets too you know.

ANyone ehere have enough money to actually need to think about prenup? Those who question the strength of a relationship based on the notion that thinking about a prenup is negative probably don't have the kind of money needed for a prenup. I wouldn't be able to adequately speak on the issue since I don't have the money/assets to need one but I can imagine if I am rich enough to think about it then I want one no matter what my relationship is like. People change all the time. It isn't a trust issue it is a risk issue.