Adoption.

forgive the intrusion of privacy, but are you considering adoption because you can't have your own kids, or just want to support adoption in general and share your household with someone less fortunate...

The reason I ask, is because I would like to adopt a child. My wife and I have 2 young children who are perfectly healthy and we are really blessed. I understand that, but I still support adoption 100%. There are alot of children out there who need homes and a family, and I want to be able to share that with someone who needs it, but my wife is against that idea, and her family and even my own family agree with her that we should have our own kids since we are fortunate enough to be able to...

I don't quite get the logic, so I was just wondering what is prompting you to consider it....

I feel the same way you do. I hope one day that I can adopt a child. It just kills me to think about those kids without a family.

forgive the intrusion of privacy, but are you considering adoption because you can't have your own kids, or just want to support adoption in general and share your household with someone less fortunate...

The reason I ask, is because I would like to adopt a child. My wife and I have 2 young children who are perfectly healthy and we are really blessed. I understand that, but I still support adoption 100%. There are alot of children out there who need homes and a family, and I want to be able to share that with someone who needs it, but my wife is against that idea, and her family and even my own family agree with her that we should have our own kids since we are fortunate enough to be able to...

I don't quite get the logic, so I was just wondering what is prompting you to consider it....
You know alot of people feel the way as your parents and hers do which is kind of natural. I had a friend who he and his wife had tried but finally gave up trying to have a child after much heart break and high cost. At first he kind of had this same feeling but if asked today he would not change a thing as he and his son are as tight as any father and son I've been around. Any one can have a child but not everyone can be a parrent and we get all hung up on this blood relation stuff.

If you decide to adopt overseas, PM me. My wife and I have done it and I work in the part of the USG responsible for overseas adoptions.

In any case, I think adoption is great. Good luck.

We've actually considered adoption a little Italian boy, but never looked into it. My wife is a mutt in terms of gene pool, I am 75% italian, as evident by my last name.
Is it easier to adopt overseas?

forgive the intrusion of privacy, but are you considering adoption because you can't have your own kids, or just want to support adoption in general and share your household with someone less fortunate...

No intrusion at all.
The quickest way to say this is, we can't have kids.
The longer version can be found on this thread:
http://www.thewarpath.net/redskins-warpath-parking-lot/16371-can-you-hear-me-now.html

The reason I ask, is because I would like to adopt a child. My wife and I have 2 young children who are perfectly healthy and we are really blessed. I understand that, but I still support adoption 100%. There are alot of children out there who need homes and a family, and I want to be able to share that with someone who needs it, but my wife is against that idea, and her family and even my own family agree with her that we should have our own kids since we are fortunate enough to be able to...

I don't quite get the logic, so I was just wondering what is prompting you to consider it....

I can understand both points of views...but I've always wanted to be able to help the less fortunate kids...I mean they could be adopted by some Cowpattie fan!!!! UUUCK!

If you are interested in Eastern Europe, start here:
EEAC - Home (http://www.eeadopt.org/)

If you are interested in Ukraine, I can forward you the name of someone knowledgeable to talk to.

Thanks for the link.

I don't mean to make light of the situation, but if your planning on adopting from China, you might want to do it sooner rather than later.

China Tightens Adoption Rules for Foreigners - New York Times (http://www.nytimes.com/2006/12/20/us/20adopt.html?em&ex=1166850000&en=015f107024876060&ei=5087%0A)

Apparently the Chinese have something against fat, ugly, and single people.

I wonder what country this law is aimed at?

I don't mean to make light of the situation, but if your planning on adopting from China, you might want to do it sooner rather than later.

China Tightens Adoption Rules for Foreigners - New York Times (http://www.nytimes.com/2006/12/20/us/20adopt.html?em&ex=1166850000&en=015f107024876060&ei=5087%0A)

Apparently the Chinese have something against fat, ugly, and single people.

I wonder what country this law is aimed at?

That's interesting!
I don't have any interest in adopting any child that looks drastically different than I do. I just don't want to go through the slew of problems that would bring. Like if the child gets picked on, then of course I have no background to make him feel better...I feel it might alienate the child. But if I got a European child, especially an Italian child, I'd be able to have no problems overcoming the child's adversity.

We've actually considered adoption a little Italian boy, but never looked into it. My wife is a mutt in terms of gene pool, I am 75% italian, as evident by my last name.
Is it easier to adopt overseas?

It's more certain, in that pretty much anyone can get a kid within a year. However, I believe it is more expensive (I'm not 100% certain on that), and, depending on the country, you could run a higher risk of adopting a child with mental or physical disabilities. However, there are steps you can take to minimize the likelihood of that (or increase the likelihood, since many people seek out children with difficulties).

Adopting girls from Asian countries, particularily China and Korea, is both a very easy and very noble thing, since many of these kids will grow up in an orphanage and end up as either sweatshop workers or trafficked sex slaves. Good for you that you are looking into this.....

Adopting girls from Asian countries, particularily China and Korea, is both a very easy and very noble thing, since many of these kids will grow up in an orphanage and end up as either sweatshop workers or trafficked sex slaves. Good for you that you are looking into this.....

I just don't know if I could handle the amount of issues that would pop up with an asian child. I don't want people to KNOW he or she is not my child.