Are you bitter?

I can't believe there's this much drama over a birthday. When you get to be my age, you're more bitter about people reminding you that you're having one. :)

I can't believe there's this much drama over a birthday. When you get to be my age, you're more bitter about people reminding you that you're having one. :)
So would you say there's not much drama in the LBC?

(Lady Brave's Crib)

I am bitter about many things but the thing that I am most bitter about is the 16 seasons without a Super Bowl appearance. Maybe (team wise) I was spoiled as a child. That does not change my position now however.

So would you say there's not much drama in the LBC?

(Lady Brave's Crib)
Ok, I totally had to Google that reference. ;)

Actually, I love drama. I live for it. The theatrical kind, not the personal kind.

I find the great thing about people forgetting dates that are important to you is that it totally lets you off the hook when it comes to buying gifts for them when their special day rolls around. It's awesome, because I seriously hate shopping.

It may surprise some to hear it, but I'd have to say I'm not bitter about anything. I get grouchy pretty often (sorry guys, hope ya still love me) but I also get over things pretty quickly.

I remember one time I hung onto some resentment for a while, when this total douchebag at work took full credit for something he and I worked on together. He didn't get promoted but I know he got props by the high-ups for that stuff. Eventually though I decided to let it go and instead focus my energy on trying to do other good work that would earn me the props. That attitude was much more productive than staying bitter, so I ended up earning my own props and it all worked out fine.

Ok, I totally had to Google that reference. ;)

Actually, I love drama. I live for it. The theatrical kind, not the personal kind.

I find the great thing about people forgetting dates that are important to you is that it totally lets you off the hook when it comes to buying gifts for them when their special day rolls around. It's awesome, because I seriously hate shopping.

AMEN! It's the bane of my existence.

Hey guys,

Just got a chance to read all the advice and the advice is good.

Schneed got it right when he said that she does get frustrated when she thinks I don't stand up for her. For ME, I think the reason I don't stand up for one reason or the other is that I feel like if YOU have a problem, then YOU need to deal with it, not put someone in the middle of their spouse and their family.

Basically, the way it goes is that people basically know my wife is a little extra-sensitive on a lot of things and in most cases, I'll take her side even when she's wrong EXCEPT when it comes to family. When it comes to family, I DO MIND creating friction. If it's just a co-worker or friend of her's, I don't give a crap. But when it comes to her family or my family in particular, I refuse to start crap because she's sensitive.

For those who were wondering, I did call my dad and was like, "You know it was Nicole's birthday a couple weeks ago right?" and he kind of studdered considering I NEVER even semi-call him out and he just went right on past it because normally our conversations consist of Skins news and light stuff. I think he truly forgot, because I have a step mom and two half-brothers and basically she is so up their ass that why would they remember my wife's birthday when they can be busy spoiling those two? I could tell my dad was definitely feeling guilty, so for me at least I let him know and I told my wife that I mentioned that to him she seemed happy with me.

NOW, I think the situation is settled and I'll probably remind him early next year, BUT if she holds on to the grudge too long (especially since he's taking two days of his life to come install hardwood floors for us in a week) then SHE'LL be the one getting called out.

Hey guys,

Just got a chance to read all the advice and the advice is good.

Schneed got it right when he said that she does get frustrated when she thinks I don't stand up for her. For ME, I think the reason I don't stand up for one reason or the other is that I feel like if YOU have a problem, then YOU need to deal with it, not put someone in the middle of their spouse and their family.

Basically, the way it goes is that people basically know my wife is a little extra-sensitive on a lot of things and in most cases, I'll take her side even when she's wrong EXCEPT when it comes to family. When it comes to family, I DO MIND creating friction. If it's just a co-worker or friend of her's, I don't give a crap. But when it comes to her family or my family in particular, I refuse to start crap because she's sensitive.

For those who were wondering, I did call my dad and was like, "You know it was Nicole's birthday a couple weeks ago right?" and he kind of studdered considering I NEVER even semi-call him out and he just went right on past it because normally our conversations consist of Skins news and light stuff. I think he truly forgot, because I have a step mom and two half-brothers and basically she is so up their ass that why would they remember my wife's birthday when they can be busy spoiling those two? I could tell my dad was definitely feeling guilty, so for me at least I let him know and I told my wife that I mentioned that to him she seemed happy with me.

NOW, I think the situation is settled and I'll probably remind him early next year, BUT if she holds on to the grudge too long (especially since he's taking two days of his life to come install hardwood floors for us in a week) then SHE'LL be the one getting called out.

Sounds like a good resolution. Glad to hear it worked out well. Gotta love the Warpath, advice comes in droves whether solicited or not! Hopefully it wasn't unwanted.

I'm bitter that Britney Spears didn't take care of herself.

I am bitter I got an 80 on a test when the avg was 88 wtf. I think the professor f'ed up on my grading.

For people who agree (like SS) you know how hard it is to be the asshole. For me, I'd much rather take the hit and please people I'm in the middle of (mostly family and wife).

Right now, I'm in a tough spot with the wife and my dad. Basically, this year was the first year we've been married and my dad forgot her birthday (let me remind you we've been together nearly ten years) and she was really hurt.

In my life I can't remember one time I've called my dad out, so basically rather than that, I'd rather just suffer and let there be weirdness between my wife and my dad. Am I wrong in thinking that if she has a problem SHE should be the one to address it and not me or is that part of my husbandly duties?

Sure I can see her point, and he should have at least called her or something, but when she gets mad at people she basically cuts them off and thanks to that I've almost estranged a couple of formerly close family members.

I'm impressed that this concerns you so much. Because it's your Dad I would politely remind him that he forgot your wife's bday.. Give him a chance to step up and make amends.