On Marriage

What if you were also divorced?

If you're both on equal footing, both having been divorced, then that shouldn't stop you. Heck even if you've never been married but the lady has been divorced, that shouldn't stop you either. Corny as it sounds, love is still worth taking the chance for. But you're better off picking someone who's never been divorced, if you can.

I think that's generalizing just a bit.

For sure. You gotta get to know the girl real well and then you can make a better educated guess. But every person should go into marriage under the assumption that they don't know everything about the person, and should go in with eyes open and ready to learn more. A single mom could be a great mate. But just like a baseball manager plays the percentages, thinking the lefty hitter vs righty pitcher gives him a better chance, you gotta think a single mom is a little more likely to be into me for business reasons than a woman without kids is.

I dunno, have you seen some of the cougars out there? LOL

True that. And hey, women tend to hit their sexual peak in their 30s. Plus they know what they're doing by that point!

We know, ;)

But you love me, right. Right? Guys?

But you love me, right. Right? Guys?

Only when ur being an asshole I agree with. ;)

I would say love is something that can not be measured or anylaized. There is no formula for love.

I would like to add a female with children generally is pretty guard as to who they bring into their lives. This has been my experience, though I have never dated anyone with a kid when I was single, nor would it have deterioed me if I had meet the right person.

Depends on your operating definition of "great"!

I might ruffle feathers here, and if so sorry, this is my opinionated side coming out. I'd automatically rule out any of the following as a potential mate:

- Any woman who's been divorced. If it wasn't successful in round one, the odds of it being unsuccessful in round 2 are a ton higher than with someone who's never been divorced.

- Any woman who's been abused. Way too much emotional baggage.
- Any single mother. Their decision-making when choosing a potential mate will be clouded by the natural desire to have someone to share the workload and responsibility of raising children.

Not to mention younger women are generally more attractive. I tend to agree that age makes a big difference (though 25 might be unrealistic). Simply because the field gets narrowed down to those with baggage after a certain point.

To be fair, same thing goes for men to an extent. So ladies out there please understand, I'm not being sexist, I'm just an asshole.

Should we put scarlet letters on abused woman to make sure no man gets hoodwinked into marrying one of these defective products?

How unfortunate that there are people who actually agree with you.

The man said he has his asshole hat on, what more do you want?

Abused women have trust issues and are likely to cut you in the event that you f'up...they're not for all men.

The man said he has his asshole hat on, what more do you want?
Abused women have trust issues and are likely to cut you in the event that you f'up...they're not for all men.

Meaning what? So long as you say that you have your "asshole hat on," you're insulated from a response?

Meaning what? So long as you say that you have your "asshole hat on," you're insulated from a response?

If you're S10, yes. I don't make the rules, I just know of them.

Depends on your operating definition of "great"!

I might ruffle feathers here, and if so sorry, this is my opinionated side coming out. I'd automatically rule out any of the following as a potential mate:

- Any woman who's been divorced. If it wasn't successful in round one, the odds of it being unsuccessful in round 2 are a ton higher than with someone who's never been divorced.

- Any woman who's been abused. Way too much emotional baggage.

- Any single mother. Their decision-making when choosing a potential mate will be clouded by the natural desire to have someone to share the workload and responsibility of raising children.

Not to mention younger women are generally more attractive. I tend to agree that age makes a big difference (though 25 might be unrealistic). Simply because the field gets narrowed down to those with baggage after a certain point.

To be fair, same thing goes for men to an extent. So ladies out there please understand, I'm not being sexist, I'm just an asshole.
I disagree with what I highlighted to a point. I was divorced once and said I would get married one more time but only to the right women. I was single for 10 years before I found the right women because I knew after my first try I knew what I wnated and what I did not want in my next wife. So my divorce actually helped me the second time around. One thing I did know is that I would not get involved with a women who had a child but I was raising my daughter as I ruled out mothers. I guess that a double standard but I was actually honest and told girls I dated this and I guess they understood.

I disagree with what I highlighted to a point. I was divorced once and said I would get married one more time but only to the right women. I said the same thing and then checked the bigamy laws in Virginia and ruled that out :)

Meaning what? So long as you say that you have your "asshole hat on," you're insulated from a response?

It's totally cool to call me on it. Mine is a cold-hearted view, but nevertheless one that I feel is accurate.

Firstdown makes some good points, that there are exceptions. And Matty said it too, I am definitely generalizing.

But ultimately generalizations are categorizations of relative odds. I'm more likely to get mugged in an impoverished neighborhood than an upscale one. I'm more likely to strike out Ryan Howard if I bring in a lefty. I'm more likely to have a successful marriage if I get hitched to someone who's never experienced a failed marriage before.

Doesn't mean I can't get Howard out if I stick with the righty, though. But, don't the fans have a right to boo me if I leave the righty in and he goes yard?