Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane

Do you do a bunch of stuff for your mom and its ticking off your wife

Honestly, not really. I see her grandmother who lives in Hawaii more than I see my own mom if I were to do the math on how many hours we spend with each of them.

Malcolm, your wife isn't mad about you driving your mother. That is just the straw that broke the cammel's back. She is pissed about something else or even someone else, but the fact that you have to drive your mother has pushed her over the edge. Rarely do women ever let on what they are really upset about. This is just a guess but she probably is upset about not having a weekend alone with you in general. You could have been asked by the president of the United States to fly to Africa and save a bunch orphans from a burning building and she would have still been pissed.

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This 100%.

She's marking her territory (you). It's a relatively minor "me OR your mom" type deal, but these things matter to women...because they're insane.

I tend to agree with everyone who says that there is something more to it... meaning that shes probaboly mad that she hasn't spent a weekend with you latley or something like that. If my girlfriend gets upset with me, thats ussually the root cause and something else causes the fight and it just leads back to the same place...

But you're compeltley right in the situation. There is no reason it should be this big of a deal for thsi long. If shes pissed for a couple hours, whatever...but this is just stupid.

One of the toughest jobs of being a husband, balancing responsibilities between and obligations toward your family and your wife. Somehow, the guy always has to be the voice of reason.

Whatever you do, don't tell her you don't know what the big deal is. If nothing else, acknowledge that whatever's bothering her is important to her.


Did you honeymoon with her family too?...'cause that's just odd

One of the toughest jobs of being a husband, balancing responsibilities between and obligations toward your family and your wife. Somehow, the guy always has to be the voice of reason.

Whatever you do, don't tell her you don't know what the big deal is. If nothing else, acknowledge that whatever's bothering her is important to her.


Did you honeymoon with her family too?...'cause that's just odd

Well said. That's one thing I learned a long time ago is that saying something like that is like telling the rain not to do it.

And no, our honeymoon was really the last "just the two of us" vacation we did. We had a small weekend in Vegas, but that's it. Whenever we do one of her family vacations, I always try to get a couple of days away just the two of us, but that's not the same when we get to spend a couple thousand dollars each year going where HER family wants to go.

All woman have a little bit of crazy in 'em. They just do. No joke. She's off her rocker on this but that's what woman do. Let her just get over it.

You my friend are in a tough spot, one I have been in many times. Living close to my family and my in-laws creates wonderful scenarios much like this one.

When it comes to my folks I try to help them with any reasonable request. Once you have a child you will see what your folks did for you to get you where you are now so to turn your back on them is kind of foolish and well basically mean IMO, especially when helping out your mom.

IF this was my wife I would say hey look my folks have done a ton for me in my life my mom needs a simple two hour ride to the airport I have to do this for her it is my duty. There are 46 hours left in the weekend they are ours do whatever you want with them. Do you really have a problem with me helping my own mom? I think it is a bit selfish the way you are acting considering what I have done with your folks.

Leave it at that and let her stew eventually she will come around especially if you have done what you say you have done with her in-laws.

When it comes to stuff like this what goes around comes around, at some point her folks will need help that will inconvenience you but still help them knowing down the road it will be your turn again.

Not to get to personal with you but if you are having fights like this now wait until you have kids!

Very good advice. And seriously, this is one of the reasons we DON'T want kids right now. LOL

That sounds very similar.

All woman have a little bit of crazy in 'em. They just do. No joke. She's off her rocker on this but that's what woman do. Let her just get over it.


It is not crazy it is jealousy. I think his wife is jealous of the time he is taking from her to give to his mom. Women are jealous creatures by nature, it is weird but the way it is.