AITAH: Am I the A**hole Here?

A while ago I pretended to take cell phone photos of my lady when she was changing her bra with her boobies out .. and I figured shed get pretend offended, wed laugh and Id erase them.

But she didnt notice.

I kept the photos.

And now I take photos and video of her from time to time when her boobies are out .. and she doesnt notice. I email them to me then delete the photos off my phone.

I dont know what to do at this point.

Either:

1. delete the emails and stop

or

2. graduate to secretly video recording us having sex

I feel really weird abut this .. leaning towards deleting them, not like I ever go and look at them. More or less just fun to try and do it and not get detected

Option 1, definitely option 1!!

Option 1, definitely option 1!!


Definitely this if you want to have the actual boobies around longer than the photos of the boobies.

My roommate is my ex-girlfriend. We broke up well before I moved out here. But we remained good friends. So when I moved out here, she decided to move with me. But I told her I was getting my own place after our 1st lease at our apartment is up. Fast forward a year later...

I now own my condo. She was talking about buying her own place too. But then she decided she wanted to rent again. And she found a place literally in the exact same complex as mine. It's mix unit, has condos, apartments, and townhomes all within the same area. She was going to rent an apartment that was in the building directly adjacent to my condo. Like we would be able easily see the other person's home. I told her I did not want her to live there. I plan on starting to date again and want to eventually get married. It would in my opinion just be super awkward to have my ex-girlfriend living right next to me. Also, this will be my 1st time ever living on my own, having her right behind me, will almost be like we're still roommates. I want to experience this. I've always had to have roommates before. AITAH for saying that?

Now she's all pissed off at me and not speaking w/ me. Hopefully it's something she eventually gets over, as I still want us to be friends. And she doesn't know anyone else out here.

I'd like to thank everyone here for the help!

I'd like to thank everyone here for the help!

I wrote up something then didn’t posted it. I said to myself if you’re stupid enough to move across the country with an ex then be their roommate you’re just a fucking idiot not a asshole

I wrote up something then didn’t posted it. I said to myself if you’re stupid enough to move across the country with an ex then be their roommate you’re just a fucking idiot not a asshole

Lol. I like it. So what I'm picking up is, I'm not an asshole! You should have posted that shit the 1st time.

Being a fucking idiot or asshole:

https://y.yarn.co/abc93553-cdbf-4681-b71f-0808bd90a792_text.gif

I wrote up something then didn’t posted it. I said to myself if you’re stupid enough to move across the country with an ex then be their roommate you’re just a fucking idiot not a asshole

lol.................

I'd like to thank everyone here for the help!

Sorry brother man ... didnt see this. I think this would fall under "need more info" for me.

Confused on why shed move across country if shes not in love with you.

Does she want to date you but you dont? Is she a leecher and youre her support system?

I think perhaps this recent "snap" was a result of you not setting clear firm boundries a year ago by letting her follow you .. perhaps moving cross country was a way of implying you want to live a free life without being direct with her.

You may have overreeacted here bc you under reacted in the past.

its a progressive build up of frustration.

I blame you 60% bc you passively acquiesced to the "break point" situation a year ago when that was the time to be direct and clear.

Sometimes you gotta break some eggs to make an omelette.

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Dont let another person passively steal years of your life.

SD youre in your prime my man

Go balls deep, find your love.

Hes out there somewhere, just waiting for you.

edit -- a thought out letter may help, writing you gt to think about and edit your words so your message may be more refined. if she was a good friend, you owe her an eloquent thoughtful explanation imo.

Okay so my son has a robotics competition today. One of the teammates is ill today and can't make it, it is a team of 5 boys. His mom sends a message to all the parents from her son about the teams roles today that she says is from her son. The text has roles for 3 of the boys and excludes my son from the message.

I called her out on it and we ended up having a long phone conversation about the concept of a team. She sees nothing wrong with her text and her son wasn't trying to exclude my son. I explained excluding one member of the team is a problem regardless of whether it was intentional or not and it is her responsibility to proof the text if you are going to let someone else send a message from your phone to ensure the message is proper.

She told me my actions made her feel vilified in front of the other parents in the group text. AITAH?

Okay so my son has a robotics competition today. One of the teammates is ill today and can't make it, it is a team of 5 boys. His mom sends a message to all the parents from her son about the teams roles today that she says is from her son. The text has roles for 3 of the boys and excludes my son from the message.

I called her out on it and we ended up having a long phone conversation about the concept of a team. She sees nothing wrong with her text and her son wasn't trying to exclude my son. I explained excluding one member of the team is a problem regardless of whether it was intentional or not and it is her responsibility to proof the text if you are going to let someone else send a message from your phone to ensure the message is proper.

She told me my actions made her feel vilified in front of the other parents in the group text. AITAH?



Not the A hole but I might have gone about it differently. I would have texted back on the original something like your son, "will take the sick boys place today as Captain like we agreed" or something like that. Then she either backs down or calls you.