Warpath  

Home | Forums | Salary Cap Info | Shop | Donate | Stay Connected




Go Back   Warpath > Off-Topic Discussion > Parking Lot


understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Parking Lot


Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 08-16-2010, 09:03 AM   #166
‎\m/
 
Mattyk's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2004
Age: 41
Posts: 80,536
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Hey nothing wrong with a once or twice per week, especially if you've been in a long-term relationship. There are plenty of reasons why the sex life takes a dip after marriage. It's not rocket science. Kids, careers, hobbies, priorities, etc.
__________________
Support The Warpath! | Warpath Shop

Last edited by Mattyk; 08-16-2010 at 11:03 AM.
Mattyk is offline   Reply With Quote

Advertisements
Old 08-16-2010, 09:03 AM   #167
Franchise Player
 
mredskins's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
Posts: 8,593
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Quote:
Originally Posted by SolidSnake84 View Post
I dont remember butting heads in the Campbell thread, but if we did I'm sorry. One thing I do like about the board is that with the exception of a few trolls that pop in here and there, people get along basically great here even when they are disagreeing.

Everybody has been giving great advice and it really makes me feel good to know that I am not alone. I still am shocked at the amount of men that get married and then the sex just dries up. Where are these women getting it from then??? I have a hard time believing that people just stop and are ok with it.

I found a USA today poll like i mentioned earlier, that was horrifying. 65% of married adults have sex only once a week, 20% have sex once every 2 weeks, and horrifyingly 15% have sex less than once a month....Somebody seriously needs to find out why. I find it hard to believe that every single man or women resort to prostitutes or having an affair to get what they need.

Dude you need to have a kids and then look at these stats you will still be horrified but you will be wondering how all these folks are still have enough time to or energy to even have that much sex.
__________________
When life gives you paper jams, turn them into paper footballs!
mredskins is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 09:05 AM   #168
Inactive
 
KLHJ2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: DC Metro Area
Age: 35
Posts: 5,829
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Quote:
Originally Posted by mredskins View Post
This thread and the advice is going down hill fast.

Yes porn is definitely the answer to your issue. eyes roll
I could make your head roll if you think that would help.
KLHJ2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 09:11 AM   #169
Inactive
 
KLHJ2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: DC Metro Area
Age: 35
Posts: 5,829
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

BTW, I was just kidding mredskins.

I thought that this was appropriate.


Man comes into a bank wearing a ski mask.
He goes up to the counter, takes out a gun, points it at the teller and says, “This is a robbery”.
She quietly says, “Sir, this isn’t a regular bank. This is a sperm bank.”
“Just do what I tell you. Grab one of those bottles behind you.”
“Sir, those are bottles of sperm!”
He points his gun at her, “Pick it up and drink it.”
She has no choice so she takes off the cap and drinks the sperm.
The gunman looks at her, pulls off his mask and it’s her husband, “Now, was that so difficult…!”
KLHJ2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 09:13 AM   #170
The Starter
 
MonkFan4Life's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Age: 37
Posts: 1,840
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Quote:
Originally Posted by mredskins View Post
This thread and the advice is going down hill fast.

Yes porn is definitely the answer to your issue. eyes roll
__________________
Catch me on YouTube !

http://www.youtube.com/user/DowntimeRB?feature=mhw5

The "punishment" by the league : "It's like getting a ticket for going too fast on a road a week ago and they changed the speed limit today"
MonkFan4Life is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 10:34 AM   #171
Living Legend
 
Monkeydad's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: PA
Age: 35
Posts: 16,275
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Quote:
Originally Posted by SolidSnake84 View Post
Hey guys im back. The weekend was kind of busy and I've got both good news and bad news to report.

I can tell you first that we made huge progress over the weekend. On Saturday we were together all day between going to yard sales and also going over to my father's for his birthday dinner. She told me that there are some nights that she is in the mood mentally, but physical exhaustion takes it from her.

She also told me that sometimes i annoy her or piss her off, leading to her not wanting to have sex. I guess there are annoying habits of mine that i am letting slip. (I had this problem when i was engaged).

And now the bad news: It will be Wednesday at the earliest that i can try again....Wife is having that monthly time....so i suffer a few more days, and hopefully end this horrible spell on Wednesday. Thanks everybody
Well, progress. That couch scene on Friday was BAD...she seemed psycho or..."out of town" in female terms, which was confirmed.

Of course, that may explain that particular moment of insanity but not the previous 5 weeks.

Crazy how she accuses YOU of leading her on and letting her down. That's almost laughable...like you'd actually turn her down if she wanted to do something.

I say keep talking, even if it only gets you a longer list of your offenses and complaints about you...it's something and progress.


If this continues on for another month, I'd SERIOUSLY try to get her into marriage counseling if you don't find out about any physical/medical/hormonal problems. It's no fun but it will be the only resort to try to save the relationship. You can't let her screw with your emotions and sanity constantly...or have all of the power in the relationship. No one party should, it needs to be a give-and-take thing, compromising to make the other person happy. If either one of you is only in it for your own personal happiness, no one will be happy.
__________________
Not sent from a Droid, iPhone, Blackberry or toaster
Monkeydad is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 10:48 AM   #172
Registered User
 
firstdown's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: chesapeake, va
Age: 50
Posts: 15,818
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Quote:
Originally Posted by SolidSnake84 View Post
I dont remember butting heads in the Campbell thread, but if we did I'm sorry. One thing I do like about the board is that with the exception of a few trolls that pop in here and there, people get along basically great here even when they are disagreeing.

Everybody has been giving great advice and it really makes me feel good to know that I am not alone. I still am shocked at the amount of men that get married and then the sex just dries up. Where are these women getting it from then??? I have a hard time believing that people just stop and are ok with it.

I found a USA today poll like i mentioned earlier, that was horrifying. 65% of married adults have sex only once a week, 20% have sex once every 2 weeks, and horrifyingly 15% have sex less than once a month....Somebody seriously needs to find out why. I find it hard to believe that every single man or women resort to prostitutes or having an affair to get what they need.
Those poll number do not add up or the questions were very limited. When she said it was that time of month you should have encouraged her to do something else. Nothing spells love better the Blow J#%. JK
firstdown is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 11:23 AM   #173
MVP
 
CRedskinsRule's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Pasadena, Md
Age: 47
Posts: 12,379
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Quote:
Originally Posted by SolidSnake84 View Post
Hey good morning everyone again.

Last night didn't go so well. I was watching the Skins game alone, because my wife went to visit her parents because it was her brother's 19th birthday.

...

I will continue to pray and seek advice from people and start getting a gameplan together, because I do believe now that this is the beginning of the end.
I read this awhile ago, so sorry for jumping in late. Ignoring all the stuff that went on, your first bit seems to set a bit of a tone, and your last sentence completes it. You say you were watching the game alone, and I read it like you were blaming her for that fact, when in fact, it was a preseason game. If you want to be getting "cuddly" with your wife you should have been at her brother's b'day party. Right there you are choosing football over family, at least possibly in her eyes, and it was important enough to her that she went. You then go on a bit of a rant against her actions, but really from her eyes were your actions any less self serving, sure you did the massage and everything, but she probably was ticked off that you didn't go with her and the minute she gets home you are on her like a cat in heat.

Then you end with a doom statement, that this is the beginning of the end. Boy, if she catches that vibe from you, I am sure that would make her want you all the more. It just seems, and of course not having a real inkling of anything other than words on screens, that you are not really looking at yourself through her eyes. How different could Friday have been, if you had gone to the B'day party, made every effort to stay in good graces with her family (i also assume that there is some blocks there or else you would have gone), and then driven her home, and shared more intimacy, up to but not necessarily including sex. Instead, you watched your game, maybe sulking that you were alone - maybe not, she comes home, and you start doing your lets be intimate dance, which she probably knows and by then was already not in the mood for. Further, she probably started off thinking, well let's do this and that way he's off my back for a while, but as the massaging went on, her mind went back to the things that she was ticked about thus leading to the tirade.

Finally sorry for the poor paragraph/grammer. keep writing some then working then writing etc...
__________________
Dirtbag59, sending songs to oblivion 1 writer at a time.
CRedskinsRule is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 12:28 PM   #174
Camp Scrub
 
Dealseeker777's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Posts: 26
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

You call 32 days a Dry spell...........

Wait until you have kids...lol
Dealseeker777 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 12:55 PM   #175
Living Legend
 
Monkeydad's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: PA
Age: 35
Posts: 16,275
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

^ I agree, but there's a little more going on than that.
__________________
Not sent from a Droid, iPhone, Blackberry or toaster
Monkeydad is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 01:07 PM   #176
The Starter
 
SolidSnake84's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Stephens City, VA
Posts: 1,859
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

I can chalk it up to all the problems being on me....or caused by me.

I just want to know what it is besides my annoying habits, which i will explain if anyone wants to know
__________________
Time to nut up or shut up
SolidSnake84 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 01:13 PM   #177
Eternally Legendary
 
saden1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: Seattle
Age: 34
Posts: 9,858
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

what are your annoying habits?
__________________
"The Redskins have always suffered from chronic organizational deformities under Snyder."

-Jenkins
saden1 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 01:17 PM   #178
Uncle Phil
 
SmootSmack's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2004
Posts: 44,604
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Quote:
Originally Posted by SolidSnake84 View Post
I can chalk it up to all the problems being on me....or caused by me.

I just want to know what it is besides my annoying habits, which i will explain if anyone wants to know
Wait, so now it's all your fault?
__________________
You're So Vain...You Probably Think This Sig Is About You
SmootSmack is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 01:19 PM   #179
The Starter
 
SolidSnake84's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Stephens City, VA
Posts: 1,859
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Quote:
Originally Posted by saden1 View Post
what are your annoying habits?
Ok guys please dont laugh at me because i'm being brutally honest here:

she doesnt like her face being touched. I cup her chin sometimes to be playful.

I grab her butt when she isnt paying attention, and sometimes it makes her mad.

I have a habitually negative demeanor sometimes; i can be too overdramatic. For example, yesterday i was describing our recent drought (weather wise, not sex lol) to a neighbor, and i was telling him how lucky we were for the rain, because "people were near death" in my own words. Sometimes i say things like that and i honestly cant help it. it is so random.
__________________
Time to nut up or shut up
SolidSnake84 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-16-2010, 01:20 PM   #180
The Starter
 
SolidSnake84's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Stephens City, VA
Posts: 1,859
Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Quote:
Originally Posted by SmootSmack View Post
Wait, so now it's all your fault?
Im saying as a man, i can accept that it is something caused by me, because i dont want to believe that she is not interested in me like that anymore.
__________________
Time to nut up or shut up
SolidSnake84 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -4. The time now is 12:43 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
This site is not officially affiliated with the Washington Redskins or the NFL.
Page generated in 0.33632 seconds with 10 queries

Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.2.0 RC5

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25