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Ah the good times...

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Sorry had to do it, it was too funny!

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;717348]And saden, my relationship is a LOT like Buster's...[/quote]

Don't get me wrong, we have a GREAT marriage...very happy and satisfied...but my point was that any woman can have a crazy streak...we just have to try to survive it without doing any permanent damage or something that can be brought up later.

Stand your ground but also try to keep the peace. These things (moods) always pass.

We do seem to have something in common...seeing her parents ALL THE TIME. :D

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[quote=Buster;717361]Don't get me wrong, we have a GREAT marriage...very happy and satisfied...but my point was that any woman can have a crazy streak...we just have to try to survive it without doing any permanent damage or something that can be brought up later.

Stand your ground but also try to keep the peace. These things (moods) always pass.[/quote]


To that note it be wise to learn your wives period panties if you see her wearing them keep back at least 100 feet.

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[quote=mredskins;717359]Ah the good times...

[U][IMG]http://www.thewarpath.net/image.php?u=770&dateline=1164999368&type=profile[/IMG][/U]

Sorry had to do it, it was too funny![/quote]

Man that goatee was lame! Thank god I shaved that beast off.

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[quote=mredskins;717363]To that note it be wise to learn your wives period panties if you see her wearing them keep back at least 100 feet.[/quote]

She takes Seasonale, so she only has four a year.

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;717307]I mean I DO agree with my wife's point that it would basically cost nothing for the 4 people I'm taking to split the parking bill, not to mention all the people it's inconveniencing to take them to and from.

But what I am supposed to do? Tell my family, [B]"Well, why don't you just take yourselves?"[/B][/quote]

Actually, in your case, that's exactly what I'd do.

My in-laws are down in Orlando, so I only see them a few times a year. But my mom, dad, stepmom, and stepdad all live within 4 miles of my wife and me. My mom, bless her heart, is a little nuts. She's just very hyper, and she ADORES my wife (the daughter she never had kind of thing). She's always asking us to come over and do this or that, or meet her out to do this and that...

Sometimes you just have to say no. My wife and I are both really focused on our careers right now and working a lot, so we don't have much free time together. I sure don't want to spend the bulk of it hanging out with my Mom. Going over for dinner a few times a month is fine, but sometimes she's just over the top with all her requests.

You could easily just tell your Mom that you and the wife need some time just the two of you, and that you can't accommodate her request this time. Like you said, it's totally reasonable that they split the parking. I don't think that's a big "FU" to your Mom as you said. I mean, if your Mom was disabled or something, then that's different.

Anyway man, it will all work out. You'll be having sexicans again before you know it.

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[quote=GMScud;717370]Actually, in your case, that's exactly what I'd do.

My in-laws are down in Orlando, so I only see them a few times a year. But my mom, dad, stepmom, and stepdad all live within 4 miles of my wife and me. My mom, bless her heart, is a little nuts. She's just very hyper, and she ADORES my wife (the daughter she never had kind of thing). She's always asking us to come over and do this or that, or meet her out to do this and that...

Sometimes you just have to say no. My wife and I are both really focused on our careers right now and working a lot, so we don't have much free time together. I sure don't want to spend the bulk of it hanging out with my Mom. Going over for dinner a few times a month is fine, but sometimes she's just over the top with all her requests.

You could easily just tell your Mom that you and the wife need some time just the two of you, and that you can't accommodate her request this time. Like you said, it's totally reasonable that they split the parking. I don't think that's a big "FU" to your Mom as you said. I mean, if your Mom was disabled or something, then that's different.

Anyway man, it will all work out. You'll be having sexicans again before you know it.[/quote]


Newlywed, :doh:

Oh grasshopper much to learn.

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Just tell your wife that you are taking your mom and thats the end of it. If she starts to give you lip then you tell her that the next words that come outta her mouth oughta be her gagging on your non gender specffic nether region (PC).

Seriously though, like I said, take your mom to the airport then buy your wife some flowers, make up sex follows.

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;717367]She takes Seasonale, so she only has four a year.[/quote]

[B]Where can this be purchased? [/B]:D

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Just talk to the doctor. I great enjoy it.

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[quote=mredskins;717371]Newlywed, :doh:

Oh grasshopper much to learn.[/quote]

Actually it has nothing to do with being a newlywed. My wife and I have been together 7 years and living together most of that time, so the fact that we recently tied the knot is pretty irrelevant here.

I'm not saying TMC is wrong for taking his family to the airport, just saying that it seems like it wouldn't have been a big deal at all for them to find their own way to the airport, and then his wife wouldn't be upset (however she shouldn't be this upset anyway). Wasn't it you who told me in a thread a while back, "happy wife, happy life?"

Anyway, 3 of the 7 years my wife and I have been together, we've been living very close to my family. Plus my parents are divorced/re-married, so I have two sets of parents here that always want to see us. So over these 3 years I've learned that there's a balance that needs to be found. Sometimes I simply have to turn down invites in order to spend some quality time with the wife. And sometimes when I accept invites, the wife gets a little annoyed, but I think I've almost got it down to a science at this point.

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[quote=Angry;717373]Just tell your wife that you are taking your mom and thats the end of it. If she starts to give you lip then you tell her that the next words that come outta her mouth oughta be her gagging on your non gender specffic nether region (PC).
[/quote]


Hey there sweet talker, your screen name fits you well. :smashfrea

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[quote=Buster;717382]Hey there sweet talker, your screen name fits you well. :smashfrea[/quote]

It was a joke. I found it funny anyway. I've been married 11 years so I'm doing something right.

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did she come right out and say " don't take her"? i cant believe that's what she wants? but don't get hard ass on her. small things like this, can be gigantic to women. its OK to hold your ground. just be gentle in the way you do it. are you trying to talk to her? if not, try. and ive got 25 years behind me

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[quote=Angry;717383]It was a joke.[/quote]

Yeah, that was very obvious. :D

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[quote=dmek25;717384]did she come right out and say " don't take her"? i cant believe that's what she wants? but don't get hard ass on her. small things like this, can be gigantic to women. its OK to hold your ground. just be gentle in the way you do it. are you trying to talk to her? if not, try. and ive got 25 years behind me[/quote]

This is good advice. I'm not the most patient man, so I have a hard time not being a hard ass when I think I'm right and want to put my foot down.

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[quote=GMScud;717381]Actually it has nothing to do with being a newlywed. My wife and I have been together 7 years and living together most of that time, so the fact that we recently tied the knot is pretty irrelevant here.

I'm not saying TMC is wrong for taking his family to the airport, just saying that it seems like it wouldn't have been a big deal at all for them to find their own way to the airport, and then his wife wouldn't be upset (however she shouldn't be this upset anyway). Wasn't it you who told me in a thread a while back, "happy wife, happy life?"

Anyway, 3 of the 7 years my wife and I have been together, we've been living very close to my family. Plus my parents are divorced/re-married, so I have to sets of parents here that always want to see us. So over these 3 years I've learned that there's a balance that needs to be found. Sometimes I simply have to turn down invites in order to spend some quality time with the wife. And sometimes when I accept invites, the wife gets a little annoyed, but I think I've almost got it down to a science at this point.[/quote]

For the record I was just giving you a hard time. there is no right answer only TMC knows the right answer since he knows all the parties.

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[quote=GMScud;717381]Actually it has nothing to do with being a newlywed. My wife and I have been together 7 years and living together most of that time, so the fact that we recently tied the knot is pretty irrelevant here.

I'm not saying TMC is wrong for taking his family to the airport, just saying that it seems like it wouldn't have been a big deal at all for them to find their own way to the airport, and then his wife wouldn't be upset (however she shouldn't be this upset anyway). Wasn't it you who told me in a thread a while back, "happy wife, happy life?"
[B]
Anyway, 3 of the 7 years my wife and I have been together, we've been living very close to my family. Plus my parents are divorced/re-married, so I have two sets of parents here that always want to see us. So over these 3 years I've learned that there's a balance that needs to be found. Sometimes I simply have to turn down invites in order to spend some quality time with the wife. And sometimes when I accept invites, the wife gets a little annoyed, but I think I've almost got it down to a science at this point[/B].[/quote]

Just to clarify here, I don't want to sound like an ingrate. I am TOTALLY blessed to have such great parents/step-parents, and it's in no way any type of chore to spend time with them. I love it. But I just have to find a balance to keep everyone happy, including myself.

After reading the part in bold, I feel like I came off pretty selfish.

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[quote=GMScud;717389]Just to clarify here, I don't want to sound like an ingrate. I am TOTALLY blessed to have such great parents/step-parents, and it's in no way any type of chore to spend time with them. I love it. But I just have to find a balance to keep everyone happy, including myself.

After reading the part in bold, I feel like I came off pretty selfish.[/quote]


This is exactly why TMC should take his mom it is a balance. Sounds like he has done a lot on her family's side and know his folks need a favor.

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[quote=mredskins;717394]This is exactly why TMC should take his mom it is a balance. Sounds like he has done a lot on her family's side and know his folks need a favor.[/quote]

Fair enough. But I feel like the bigger issue isn't taking his mom to the airport just because he and his wife vacation with her parents. I think the issue is his wife being upset that they didn't spend some alone time together on that day. Maybe I missed something.

I think TMC is right in his stance though. As he said, he could have taken his mom to the airport and still had a nice time in DC/Blacksburg with his wife. She's just having one of those silly women moments where they blow the tiniest ish out of proportion.

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Probably NSFW...
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There are a few good lines in this video that can be applied here.

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[quote=GMScud;717398]Fair enough. But I feel like the bigger issue isn't taking his mom to the airport just because he and his wife vacation with her parents.[B] I think the issue is his wife being upset that they didn't spend some alone time together on that day.[/B] Maybe I missed something.

I think TMC is right in his stance though. As he said, he could have taken his mom to the airport and still had a nice time in DC/Blacksburg with his wife. She's just having one of those silly women moments where they blow the tiniest ish out of proportion.[/quote]

Exactly right. She was sending me texts at lunch saying how much this is affecting our marriage, blah blah blah. I wrote her back saying, "If this is truly affecting our marriage, then we truly had some underlying issues. Both you and me have done things for each other, our families, friends, and our work that we didn't want to do, but sometimes you just have to suck it up."

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;717354]THIS I agree with. I mean, I get some initial frustration like everyone else said, but the fact we've hung onto this for this long is borderline insane, considering how many times I've reached out and tried to be the bigger person.[/quote] women by nature are not rational beings. no matter what type of woman you have it is impossible to find one that uses logic when appropriate consistently. take for example the lady that worked at NASA that shit herself on a ride across the country over a broken fling. hell hath no fury, etc

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;717406]Exactly right. She was sending me texts at lunch saying how much this is affecting our marriage, blah blah blah. I wrote her back saying, "If this is truly affecting our marriage, then we truly had some underlying issues. Both you and me have done things for each other, our families, friends, and our work that we didn't want to do, but sometimes you just have to suck it up."[/quote]


A two hour favor for your family and it is effecting your marriage??? Dude there is more to this story. Are you generally a happy couple?

You probably need to have a sit down with and not text and/or email because each of you are going to inflict your own emotions in to the message.

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;717406]Exactly right. She was sending me texts at lunch saying how much this is affecting our marriage, blah blah blah. I wrote her back saying, "If this is truly affecting our marriage, then we truly had some underlying issues. Both you and me have done things for each other, our families, friends, and our work that we didn't want to do, but sometimes you just have to suck it up."[/quote]

exactly.. if that is doing it how dare she question the sanctity of the marriage when she's acting so selfishly.. side question, when does your family have to be at the airport?

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;717406]Exactly right. She was sending me texts at lunch saying how much this is affecting our marriage, blah blah blah. I wrote her back saying, "If this is truly affecting our marriage, then we truly had some underlying issues. Both you and me have done things for each other, our families, friends, and our work that we didn't want to do, but sometimes you just have to suck it up."[/quote]

TMC, let me ask you, is she normally a really stubborn person? From the stories you've told on here, it seems to me that you and your wife have a pretty kick-ass relationship. It will be fine.

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[quote=GMScud;717398]Fair enough. But I feel like the bigger issue isn't taking his mom to the airport just because he and his wife vacation with her parents. I think the issue is his wife being upset that they didn't spend some alone time together on that day. Maybe I missed something.

I think TMC is right in his stance though. As he said, he could have taken his mom to the airport and still had a nice time in DC/Blacksburg with his wife. She's just having one of those silly women moments where they blow the tiniest ish out of proportion.[/quote]

Does his mom ask him for things constantly? Taking someone to the airport is once in a blue moon thing. He can either take them to the airport or he can't. If he already has plans with his wife then he should tell his parents I have plans. At the end of the day it's only a few hours and unless you planned to go out of town or on a road trip it's nothing to get worked up about. Certainly not the kind of thing you get pissed off about for 2 days.

You can play peacemaker all you want but this is an issue that's going to come up time and again and she needs to be set straight...in the nicest possible way of course.


My wife comes first but that doesn't mean my parents come second all the time. A wife and a husband are suppose to understand that about their respective in-laws to make their relationship work.

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[quote=mredskins;717413]A two hour favor for your family and it is effecting your marriage??? Dude there is more to this story. Are you generally a happy couple?
[B]
You probably need to have a sit down with and not text and/or email because each of you are going to inflict your own emotions in to the message.[/B][/quote]

Also good advice. So much can be lost in translation with texts/emails. I've had more than one stupid argument because something that was text was taken the wrong way.

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[quote=saden1;717419]Does his mom ask him for things constantly? Taking someone to the airport is once in a blue moon thing. He can either take them to the airport or he can't. If he already has a plan with his wife then he should tell his parents I have plans. At the end of the day it's only a few hours and unless you planned to go out of town or on a road trip it's nothing to get worked up about. Certainly not the kind of thing you get pissed off about for 2 days.

You can play peacemaker all you want but this is an issue that's going to come up time and again and she needs to be set straight...in the nicest possible way of course.
[B]

My wife comes first but that doesn't mean my parents come second all the time. A wife and a husband are suppose to understand that about their respective in-laws to make their relationship work[/B] .[/quote]

Well said. I'm not a big fan of my mother-in-law. She's a very good person, but we just don't see eye to eye on a lot of things. But we play nice and are pleasant to each other for my wife's sake. Marriage/family involves lots of compromises.

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this brings up point that is going to be hard for me in the future. At some point you will need to help care for your folks and hopefully at theat time your spouse will be understanding.

I can remember my mom caring for my grandmother in her last year of her life it was a big strain but we all understood and pitched in my dad included.


Also I can't wait for the follow up thread about this fight, the pickup from the airport!

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Go to downtown DC. I know a guy. He can get you a new ID and a new life. With your new ID open an account in the Cayman islands and transfer all your money. After you do that fly down to Mexico and live out the rest of your life as a free man. You're welcome. VIVA LA MEXICO!!!!!

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[quote=mredskins;717424]this brings up point that is going to be hard for me in the future. At some point you will need to help care for your folks and hopefully at theat time your spouse will be understanding.

I can remember my mom caring for my grandmother in her last year of her life it was a big strain but we all understood and pitched in my dad included.


Also I can't wait for the follow up thread about this fight, the pickup from the airport![/quote]

Good point...that's going to be a challenge even if everything is chirpy and when you throw a monkey wrench into the mix the relationship will only get strained.

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[quote=mredskins;717424]this brings up point that is going to be hard for me in the future. At some point you will need to help care for your folks and hopefully at theat time your spouse will be understanding.

I can remember my mom caring for my grandmother in her last year of her life it was a big strain but we all understood and pitched in my dad included.


[B]Also I can't wait for the follow up thread about this fight, the pickup from the airport![/B][/quote]

Oh, I already got out of that so that we could do something that weekend, but that doesn't matter. It's like this weekend is the last weekend each of us will spend on Earth and I chose my family over her.

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[quote=GMScud;717418]TMC, let me ask you, is she normally a really stubborn person? From the stories you've told on here, it seems to me that you and your wife have a pretty kick-ass relationship. It will be fine.[/quote]

She's EXTREMELY stubborn, but yes, we have a great relationship and routinely I'll decline an invitation to have dinner with my family just so that she and I can have a date night. I've just never seen it like this.

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[quote=Dirtbag359;717425]Go to downtown DC. I know a guy. He can get you a new ID and a new life. With your new ID open an account in the Cayman islands and transfer all your money. After you do that fly down to Mexico and live out the rest of your life as a free man. You're welcome. VIVA LA MEXICO!!!!![/quote]

Will it work if I was to go to Costa Rica instead of Mexico?

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[quote=GMScud;717423][B]Well said. I'm not a big fan of my mother-in-law. She's a very good person, but we just don't see eye to eye on a lot of things. But we play nice and are pleasant to each other for my wife's sake. Marriage/family involves lots of compromises.[/B][/quote]


Me and you same boat. My MIL is just annoying but does a lot for my family so I give her the respect she deserves.

She came on our beach trip with us this year for a few days of the week we were there, I could tell we both had had enough of each other by third day, which ironically was the day she left.

I think MIL get the short end of the stick most times anyways by the time you are done with your wife's drama and your own mom's drama you have little left in the tank to deal with the MIL's drama and if you got daughters you are even further drained.

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;717437]She's EXTREMELY stubborn, but yes, we have a great relationship and routinely I'll decline an invitation to have dinner with my family just so that she and I can have a date night. I've just never seen it like this.[/quote]

That's really weird. As someone else suggested- is there something else going on in her life right now that would cause an outburst like this? Has something been building up inside her and this was just the straw that broke the camel's back? Seems like a gigantic overreaction.

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OK, you wanna' know what's weird. She texted me and said, "You better not ignore me. I'm going to keep bugging you until you answer me."

I said, "DON'T BUG ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" Where she could hopefully tell I was kind of kidding.

So she writes, "Don't get me wrong, I'm not fond of Saturday, but I'm better with it - also in this deal it better be a kickass night full of monkeys, strippers and midgets."

That's the exact quote.

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;717436]Oh, I already got out of that so that we could do something that weekend, but that doesn't matter. It's like this weekend is the last weekend each of us will spend on Earth and I chose my family over her.[/quote]My guess is she's either knocked up or she was planning to off you and sell your organs on the black market this weekend, but I'm good with relationship advice so I could be wrong.

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It better not be male strippers she's asking for.