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Dirtbag you can just do that. It will make you feel better.

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[quote=EARTHQUAKE2689;896780][url=http://www.ps3youtube.com/v/super-saiyans-are-real-original-fYxCrugJj_o]Super Saiyans are REAL (ORIGINAL) - KillaKarisma - PS3 Youtube - Watch HD Youtube On PS3 - Gametrailers - Revision3[/url]

Dirtbag you can just do that. It will make you feel better.[/quote]

To many big word. Me no like.

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[QUOTE=skinsfaninok;896771]Your pretty cool[/QUOTE]



Did it take you that long to figure that out?

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[QUOTE=Dirtbag59;896781]To many big word. Me no like.[/QUOTE]





That's why here at The Magic School Bus headquarters we put it in video form.

(Plus I don't know how to embed videos)

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[quote=DynamiteRave;896619]lol jesus, lemme be explicit then...

I'm bisexual.

Woot?[/quote]
[IMG]http://i44.tinypic.com/1f7hu8.gif[/IMG]

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A bisexual nymphomaniac? I've only read about that stuff in Penthouse Forum.

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[quote=jamf;896800]A bisexual [B]nymphomaniac?[/B] I've only read about that stuff in Penthouse Forum.[/quote]

lol you remember that part?

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We're guys Rave. We'll never forget that.

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that is forever etched into my mind.

Btw, I consider myself a lesbian trapped in a mans body if that helps my chances... ;)

Dang I'm the creepy gym guy on the warpath!

[QUOTE=EARTHQUAKE2689;896782]Did it take you that long to figure that out?[/QUOTE]

We argue about everything don't we? Lol

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[QUOTE=skinsfaninok;896849]We argue about everything don't we? Lol[/QUOTE]



It's one of my reasons for living. Now D.Rave I'm not a relationship guru nor do I pretend to be one on TV, and I got married at 22 to a girl I've known since elementary school, so my advice is to say good riddance to the ex as hard as it may be.

[QUOTE=EARTHQUAKE2689;896859]It's one of my reasons for living. Now D.Rave I'm not a relationship guru nor do I pretend to be one on TV, and I got married at 22 to a girl I've known since elementary school, so my advice is to say good riddance to the ex as hard as it may be.[/QUOTE]

We do agree on that though, I married at 22 to the girl I've knows since I was 13

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Great minds think alike.

[QUOTE=EARTHQUAKE2689;896868]Great minds think alike.[/QUOTE]

True that

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[quote=jamf;896846]that is forever etched into my mind.



Btw, i consider myself a lesbian trapped in a mans body if that helps my chances...



Dang i'm the creepy gym guy on the warpath![/quote]



aye girl!

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Yeah, well you know,[I] love comes in spurts[/I].

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[quote=Lotus;895942]I disagree with those who say you always need a clean break after it is over. I think it depends on circumstance. I have some ex's who I happily will never see again but also a couple of ex's who remain nice friends.[/quote]

The younger you are the more likely you are to think this way. At least that's my assertion.

The risk/reward just isn't there in my mind. The likelihood of a post-breakup friendship succeeding is low, there are emotional consequences, and friendship can be found with lots of other people who you never dated before.

The only reason people stay friends with an ex is because there are still feelings there, even if they don't want to admit it. Staying friends either leaves the door open for the future (false hope) or clings to the past (can't let go).

Rip it off like a bandaid and move on.

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[quote=Schneed10;896922]The younger you are the more likely you are to think this way. At least that's my assertion.

The risk/reward just isn't there in my mind. The likelihood of a post-breakup friendship succeeding is low, there are emotional consequences, and friendship can be found with lots of other people who you never dated before.

The only reason people stay friends with an ex is because there are still feelings there, even if they don't want to admit it. Staying friends either leaves the door open for the future (false hope) or clings to the past (can't let go).

Rip it off like a bandaid and move on.[/quote]

I'll be 50 this summer so age has nothing to do with my statement.

I agree that sometimes ripping off the bandaid is the right move. But, from another perspective, you saw enough in that person to be lovers but not enough to be friends? I therefore disagree that the only reason to stay friends is unresolved feelings. The fact is, if both parties are mature and caring, sometimes you can be just friends. Like I said, I have a couple of folks in my life who fit this description.

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I think humans love to affix rules and regulations to things, it is our nature.

BUT love is something that is so different for ever person and it is different in ever relationship they have.

You can not paint broad strokes of advice and expect them to work for everyone or anyone.

My only advice would be if you are in abusive relationship (physical/ mental) get out of it; otherwise only you know what is best for your love life, no one else is intimate enough with your feelings to truly give you advice.

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[quote=NM Redskin;896889]Yeah, well you know,[I] love comes in spurts[/I].[/quote]

And spurts come from love.

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[IMG]http://i.imgur.com/K6E6M.jpg[/IMG]

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[quote=NM Redskin;896889]Yeah, well you know,[I] love comes in spurts[/I].[/quote]

Spurts or squirts?

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[quote=Schneed10;896922]The younger you are the more likely you are to think this way. At least that's my assertion.

The risk/reward just isn't there in my mind. The likelihood of a post-breakup friendship succeeding is low, there are emotional consequences, and friendship can be found with lots of other people who you never dated before.

The only reason people stay friends with an ex is because there are still feelings there, even if they don't want to admit it. Staying friends either leaves the door open for the future (false hope) or clings to the past (can't let go).

Rip it off like a bandaid and move on.[/quote]

True that Schneed. I totally agree. For me it's a bit of false hope and not letting go. Always feels like I'm missing out on something without them there. It's almost like death in a way; Even though they're gone, the essence still lingers.

I feel like guys go, "F it." And they're either happily single or onto the next woman. Women always seem to have an awful time with breakups, me included. Unless they're the ones that ruined the relationship (cheaters).

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Cut it off completely... I've learned the hard way that though difficult it is for the best.

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[quote=DynamiteRave;897608]True that Schneed. I totally agree. For me it's a bit of false hope and not letting go. Always feels like I'm missing out on something without them there. It's almost like death in a way; Even though they're gone, the essence still lingers.

I feel like guys go, "F it." And they're either happily single or onto the next woman. Women always seem to have an awful time with breakups, me included. Unless they're the ones that ruined the relationship (cheaters).[/quote]

Well society has been rotating to a point where women seem to be a bit more ruthless, for lack of a better term, in that regard. Guys can be hurt too.

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[quote=tryfuhl;898097]Well society has been rotating to a point where women seem to be a bit more ruthless, for lack of a better term, in that regard. [B]Guys can be hurt too[/B].[/quote]

Thugs have feelings too!

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^ Lyfe Jennings.

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[quote=Schneed10;896922]The younger you are the more likely you are to think this way. At least that's my assertion.

The risk/reward just isn't there in my mind. The likelihood of a post-breakup friendship succeeding is low, there are emotional consequences, and friendship can be found with lots of other people who you never dated before.

The only reason people stay friends with an ex is because there are still feelings there, even if they don't want to admit it. Staying friends either leaves the door open for the future (false hope) or clings to the past (can't let go).

Rip it off like a bandaid and move on.[/quote]

Sometimes we dont agree Schneed but i say you are 100% dead on with this statement and i agree whole heartedly.

I was truly a few woman guy in high school, i was not a player or any of that stuff. Even back then i believed that i only wanted to spend time and make an investment in someone i thought was going to be there for the future.

I had 3 girlfriends, one of which ended up becoming my wife. The other two, it did not work trying to be friends afterwards. My first girlfriend I had as a senior and we were going our seperate ways as college approached. We said that we would "remain friends", and it seemed like a good idea at the time. It wasn't, because a few months passed and the first time I saw her again it messed me up. I knew right then i had to cut it off and I did.

Right before I started dating my wife, I was with a girl for close to a year. Our relationship was very serious, we had talked about marriage, etc, i had a wonderful relationship with her siblings and family, and in fact she even recruited me to play drums in her father's church. (He was a pastor). Well, we began struggling and pretty soon I noticed a new guy was coming to the church. He was 6'2" and had a chest as wide as a car hood, and i could see the way she looked at him, and being experienced, i knew the writing was on the wall. We were close to being done and before long, that was that.

Problem was, i was still engrained in the church, still playing in the band, teaching childrens church, etc.. It was very painful every Sunday seeing her and seeing him together, and even though i knew better, I really believed that if I stuck around and stayed "Just a friend", that maybe i would get another shot.

I didn't realize it but at the time I was suffering from what had to be a mental problem because every single day I really approached it as "today might be my day" that I get to be the guy again. The truth is, i made relationships with her family, I loved her brother and all of her family like my own, they were wonderful people, and the whole time i was around they reciprocated that love. So it was very painful when i reached the end, and I guess i just couldn't give up how good they made me felt. I never had the most stable family situation and so i believe i longed to finally be integrated into a solid, loving family. Well, one day about 6 months after we had broken up, all the while I was still living in the fantasy world believing that i was gonna "come back", my ex, i will call her "Abby", called me one night and told me to meet her at the college.

My mind and heart began to race, i believed that my number was being called!! Long story short, she told me that she knew that i believed i was going to get another chance, and she was there to tell me straight out it was never going to happen. The new guy had proposed to her and she accepted. I was crushed just like that and so I split from the whole program, left the church immediatley, and have never seen her since that day. I didn't go back in a church until 2011. I only went back when my wife and i found our own church that did not have any of our family and friends there so that I could make sure that I was going for the right reasons.

To make this too long story short, I met my wife right around the end of my time with "Abby", and she totally changed my whole life and my outlook on things. It's cliched but you just know when you find "the one", and i knew that day that i met her that I was going to marry her and there was never a doubt in my mind.

So the "just friends" thing doesn't work, in my opinion!!! Thanks for listening to my pitiful story

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[url=http://www.wtop.com/?nid=893&sid=2878962]Less housework to blame for womens' bigger waistlines - WTOP Mobile[/url]

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So how do they explain guys getting fatter?

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[quote=mlmpetert;922502][URL="http://www.wtop.com/?nid=893&sid=2878962"]Less housework to blame for womens' bigger waistlines - WTOP Mobile[/URL][/quote]

I think across the board that is true for both sexes. We will soon all be like the folks in Wall-E

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[quote=Mattyk;922504]So how do they explain guys getting fatter?[/quote]


I dont believe thats the concern

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[quote=mlmpetert;922508]I dont believe thats the concern[/quote]

women may disagree on that

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[quote=mlmpetert;922502][URL="http://www.wtop.com/?nid=893&sid=2878962"]Less housework to blame for womens' bigger waistlines - WTOP Mobile[/URL][/quote]

Less housework should mean MORE exercise time.


Women...pfft.

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[quote=Mattyk;922504]So how do they explain guys getting fatter?[/quote]
Riding mower........?
And Twinkies .....of course

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[quote=Mattyk;922504]So how do they explain guys getting fatter?[/quote]



....beer and gravity.

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Well. My relationship is fine, this is about a friend and I HAD to complain.

Long story short, my friend just got out of a very long term committed relatonship. Had been together about 3-4 years. They broke up. Got back together briefly for a month or so. Then broke up again. On Friday or Saturday, I forget which.

Not only is this bitch in a relationship with someone that she just went on ONE date with 2-3 weeks ago (and a second one on Monday), but she's moving in with them, like... effective right now.

GOD, what is WRONG with the members of my generation!

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[quote=DynamiteRave;924344]Well. My relationship is fine, this is about a friend and I HAD to complain.

Long story short, my friend just got out of a very long term committed relatonship. Had been together about 3-4 years. They broke up. Got back together briefly for a month or so. Then broke up again. On Friday or Saturday, I forget which.

Not only is this bitch in a relationship with someone that she just went on ONE date with 2-3 weeks ago (and a second one on Monday), but she's moving in with them, like... effective right now.

GOD, what is WRONG with the members of my generation![/quote]


She has esteem issues. Most likely has to be in a relationship in order to complete her life and fill a void left by the previous suitor. She doesn't have the self confidence to roll through life solo being happy with herself. Most likely this will not end well either.

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[quote=mlmpetert;922502][URL="http://www.wtop.com/?nid=893&sid=2878962"]Less housework to blame for womens' bigger waistlines - WTOP Mobile[/URL][/quote]

That's BS. Have you ever seen a Maid Brigade crew? They have to pair them up to balance out the ride in the car.

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[quote=NC_Skins;924374]She has esteem issues. Most likely has to be in a relationship in order to complete her life and fill a void left by the previous suitor. She doesn't have the self confidence to roll through life solo being happy with herself. Most likely this will not end well either.[/quote]

Or money issues and just wants to live with a guy to leech off of him.