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[quote=Monkeydad;924387]Or money issues and just wants to live with a guy to leech off of him.[/quote]

I think both you and NC are right. Although she just had a job interview today so that might be changing. So I've heard. She's been my best friend for a couple years now but this whole situation made me lose all respect for her, so we're no longer on speaking terms. I've got enough crazy in my life, I don't need hers as well.

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When you look around a little, there are a shocking number of people with dependency issues....
and a few other things.

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[quote=Hog1;924474]When you look around a little, there are a shocking number of people with dependency issues....
and a few other things.[/quote]

You're right. Those people with dependency issues gave us our current President.

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[quote=Monkeydad;924510]You're right. Those people with dependency issues gave us our current President.[/quote]

:laughing2

But true.

D.E.N.N.I.S. System. That is all.

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[quote=hooskins;924535]D.E.N.N.I.S. System. That is all.[/quote]

Outstanding. Tomorrow night I'm going to dinner with a girl that I was just set up with, I think I need to find a way to 'demonstrate value.' Any thoughts?

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[quote=ArtMonkDrillz;924618]Outstanding. Tomorrow night I'm going to dinner with a girl that I was just set up with, I think I need to find a way to 'demonstrate value.' Any thoughts?[/quote]talk about all the time you spent volunteering to coach youth sports, and recycling, ladies loves a recycler

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[quote=Mattyk;922504]So how do they explain guys getting fatter?[/quote]

It's the way we eat. More specifically how much we eat. Nothing more, nothing less. More calories and many of them are low quality calories. You can eat whatever you want and still maintain or loose weight.

However instead of a small fry or maybe a cup of ice cream people get super sized fries and a giant waffle cone, 3 scoops with all the fixins. Instead of a glass or two of wine we drink Rum and coke until we're hammered. Instead of a fun sized Butterfinger we get a king sized bar.

Basically it boils down to a lot of people not understanding the concept of moderation. Plus I think the fact that people believe exercise is necessary for weight loss serves as a convenient excuse not to eat right.

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[quote=ArtMonkDrillz;924618]Outstanding. Tomorrow night I'm going to dinner with a girl that I was just set up with, I think I need to find a way to 'demonstrate value.' Any thoughts?

[IMG]http://dudelol.com/img/the-dennis-system.jpg[/IMG][/quote]

Be yourself. Be honest and share your goals and plan to get there if you aren't already there. Don't talk about who you know, what you have or any of the like.


That establishes "high value" you are seeking.

ps. make the meetup casual (nothing fancy). Even if it's just a meetup at a coffee shop.

One of the best things I have done was take a girl to a Barnes and Noble, and tell her if she could only read one book in that entire store, what would it be? Have her search it out. It will tell you a lot about her. If she picks the Bible...end the date immediately ... :laughing-

[QUOTE=DynamiteRave;924344]Well. My relationship is fine, this is about a friend and I HAD to complain.

Long story short, my friend just got out of a very long term committed relatonship. Had been together about 3-4 years. They broke up. Got back together briefly for a month or so. Then broke up again. On Friday or Saturday, I forget which.

Not only is this bitch in a relationship with someone that she just went on ONE date with 2-3 weeks ago (and a second one on Monday), but she's moving in with them, like... effective right now.

GOD, what is WRONG with the members of my generation![/QUOTE]

She's scared to be alone, some women just have to have someone no matter if they really love them or not.

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I edited it since it has bad words and there may be kids trolling or something. But related to Skins' post. :P

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I at the first N, in the Dennis system.

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Good news for the chicks slacking on the housework:

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Well here I am back in this thread. Just got dumped after a year and a half. I'm not taking it too well. (And I'm coming to men for solace :P) I had been dating a chick for the past year and a half. Long distance because I'm finishing up grad school. I'm done in the spring, just got 2 classes left, but they're specialized so transferring isn't an option.

But she just got a job doing volunteer coordinating for a non-profit last month. It's really been taking a toll on her energy wise and basically she has zero left in the tank for the relationship. She says she fell out of love a month ago, although I don't totally believe that, I was just there last week and she wined and dined me and gave me my birthday gift which was a bit expensive. Then all of a sudden, I'm not in love with you. Wtf? Note she had NEVER mentioned any of this before. She mentioned the distance was hard and she was lonely and missed me a lot, but it had been like that the entire relationship.

When I ask her what's her logic behind leaving she says, "I need to go so I can be better for you if we're supposed to be together in the future." Like a bleeding heart female I told her my plan was to continue to love and support her, with some additional space in between us. I don't expect the same from her, but I was hoping that this would at least stick in the back of her head that I'm still here and in love. So basically, I wasn't going to change anything on my half. To this she responds that I'm a really good girl and you never know what can happen down the line. Dafuq? That was the vaguest non-committal response she could've given me.

Prior to all this, on Saturday, she had originally told me she loved me an had no intentions of leaving me. That all changed yesterday.

So... I'm not really sure what to do. I really love this chick and I'm not ready to take a wishy-washy no for an answer.

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Sorry your having to deal with all that DRave.....definitely not fun.
It's just my opinion.....but when things don't add up..Your not getting the truth. All things are Great today....Gone tomorrow? I don't think so....
Not getting the whole truth.....

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Ditto. Hope you pull through your problems Rave.

If you love her fight for her.
Personally though i have that "Everything happens for a reason feeling" when im reading your story. I feel like there is someone better out there for you who will give you unconditional love and not wishy washy love. You deserve unconditional love if that is what your willing to give.

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[quote=punch it in;963398]If you love her fight for her.
Personally though i have that "Everything happens for a reason feeling" when im reading your story. I feel like there is someone better out there for you who will give you unconditional love and not wishy washy love. You deserve unconditional love if that is what your willing to give.[/quote]

Thanks punch. I'm definitely not going down without a fight. But I understand where you're coming from. If it doesn't work out I'll probably hang it up for awhile and take a break from the dating scene. Let mr. or ms right come find me.

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I hate to say this but it sounds like she has found someone new and does not want to tell you. Did you ask if there was someone new in her life? Not sure what people mean about not going down without a fight. If you have to fight to keep her then it just putting off the inevitable. I know its not easy but your young and life has more to offer so allow a week to be a little depressed then move on. It also sounds like you have jumped from one relationship (your post to start the thread) right into this relationship. You need to take time for yourself and realize you don't need a GF to make you whole (not sure if thats the case). When you do it makes dating allot easier. I think people make life more complicated then it needs to be.

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[quote=firstdown;963449]I hate to say this but it sounds like she has found someone new and does not want to tell you. Did you ask if there was someone new in her life? Not sure what people mean about not going down without a fight. If you have to fight to keep her then it just putting off the inevitable. I know its not easy but your young and life has more to offer so allow a week to be a little depressed then move on. It also sounds like you have jumped from one relationship (your post to start the thread) right into this relationship. You need to take time for yourself and realize you don't need a GF to make you whole (not sure if thats the case). When you do it makes dating allot easier. I think people make life more complicated then it needs to be.[/quote]

I have to agree. Time to move on. I don't understand the fight think either. You can't make someone want you.

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FD is right.

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[quote=firstdown;963449]I hate to say this but it sounds like she has found someone new and does not want to tell you. Did you ask if there was someone new in her life? Not sure what people mean about not going down without a fight. If you have to fight to keep her then it just putting off the inevitable. I know its not easy but your young and life has more to offer so allow a week to be a little depressed then move on. It also sounds like you have jumped from one relationship (your post to start the thread) right into this relationship. You need to take time for yourself and realize you don't need a GF to make you whole (not sure if thats the case). When you do it makes dating allot easier. I think people make life more complicated then it needs to be.[/quote]

When I made the first post, I was already involved with this current one. I was questioning whether or not I should be friends with my ex. We put shit to bed and now we're friendly.

Also she's not seeing anyone else. In fact, I think she's too distraught right now.

[QUOTE=DynamiteRave;963403]Thanks punch. I'm definitely not going down without a fight. But I understand where you're coming from. If it doesn't work out I'll probably hang it up for awhile and take a break from the dating scene. Let mr. or ms right come find me.[/QUOTE]

I was obsessed for years with finding Mrs Right. Could'nt even find Mrs Close To Right. Lol. One day she found me. :).
Reaching just pushes it further away. Strange how love works.

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[quote=DynamiteRave;963498]When I made the first post, I was already involved with this current one. I was questioning whether or not I should be friends with my ex. We put shit to bed and now we're friendly.

Also she's not seeing anyone else. In fact, I think she's too distraught right now.[/quote]

What you need is a good Redskins ass kicking of the Eagles to make your week a little brighter.

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[quote=firstdown;963517]What you need is a good Redskins ass kicking of the Eagles to make your week a little brighter.[/quote]

YES. This always helps. lol

[QUOTE=firstdown;963517]What you need is a good Redskins ass kicking of the Eagles to make your week a little brighter.[/QUOTE]

Amen.

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The hard truth is it really sucks a lot right now. But you'll move on and find someone who makes you happy. You'll always love this person and vice-versa, but sometimes timing in relationships are just as important as love itself. Someday you'll find the combination of both and things will work out. Keep your head up.

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To give you better advise we really need to see a picture of the GF we are talking about.

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Just Keep ON Smiling!!![IMG]http://www.thewarpath.net/images/icons/icon10.gif[/IMG]


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[quote=DynamiteRave;963360]Well here I am back in this thread. Just got dumped after a year and a half. [/quote]

Sorry to hear that.

[quote=DynamiteRave;963360]I'm not taking it too well.[/quote]

Oh, no......
[quote=DynamiteRave;963360] (And I'm coming to men for solace :P) [/quote]

Do NOT ask men for relationship advice, we don't know WTF is going on most of the time.

[quote=DynamiteRave;963360]I had been dating a chick for the past year and a half. <SNIP> [/quote]

You're obviously very upset, it's going to take a bottle of wine and a chat with a good friend to process this. Don't think WP will help much.


[quote=DynamiteRave;963360]When I ask her what's her logic behind leaving [/quote]

Dude, do NOT bring logic up when questioning someones emotional decision. I wish you the best, relationships are the hardest thing to rationalize. I've stopped trying, I just drift through life like an untethered balloon filled with helium and an unruly squirrel (in a oxygen mask cos he's clearly NOT going to live long breathing helium).

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