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They may be close family members, in-laws, or just old friends, but these people are always in trouble for something. These people are always making the worst choices, and always calling you for help (bail money). I have an inlaw who is a total F... up! Since I met my wife 7 years ago this guy has been arrested at least 25 times for a number of offenses including but not limited to:

1. Distribution of heroin
2. DUI
3. DWI
4. Assult
5. Failure to pay child support
6. and the latest charge, Theft!

My wife got a call this morning from this person and basically this is the story we got:

He got a job in N.O.. He is working for a constuction company rebuilding homes in that area. He had been there all of 2 days when he was arrested for stripping abandoned homes of copper and any other thing that he could make money off of. Of course he calls me asking for 5 grand to help get him out of jail.

F-that!! He can rot in jail for all I care.

Anybody have a similar experience with this? This guy is a total loser and he always has some extravigant excuse why he is in the position he is in.

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Yeah, i got em. Hell I was that guy getting into the trouble for a while, but I always bailed myself out or did my time. I have kids now and a career and all that, and the tables are turned.

Yeah I got a pair in my family. Also, my step sister is going insane. We always knew she would be a lesbian, but now she's all goth or emo or some shit.

I get you, buddy I get you.

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Don"t Pay The 5k Let Him Learn His Lesson

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I use to date a girl whose family was always f..ed up. They were basically homeless. I love the excuses that were thrown out every day. NEVER ASK HOW THEIR DAY WAS. Oh god that what start the crying and begging for money.

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[quote=gibbsisgod;271899]They may be close family members, in-laws, or just old friends, but these people are always in trouble for something. These people are always making the worst choices, and always calling you for help (bail money). I have an inlaw who is a total F... up! Since I met my wife 7 years ago this guy has been arrested at least 25 times for a number of offenses including but not limited to:

1. Distribution of heroin
2. DUI
3. DWI
4. Assult
5. Failure to pay child support
6. and the latest charge, Theft!

My wife got a call this morning from this person and basically this is the story we got:

He got a job in N.O.. He is working for a constuction company rebuilding homes in that area. He had been there all of 2 days when he was arrested for stripping abandoned homes of copper and any other thing that he could make money off of. Of course he calls me asking for 5 grand to help get him out of jail.

F-that!! He can rot in jail for all I care.

Anybody have a similar experience with this? This guy is a total loser and he always has some extravigant excuse why he is in the position he is in.[/quote]

Some people never learn on their own. It could possibly take a major "What they hell is wrong with you?" confrontation coupled with a "You need to work on your judgement" lecture. Of course, this would have to take place before you hand over some cash.

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This reminds me of my fiancee's aunt in a way.

While she doesn't get into a lot of trouble, she gets along mooching like a mother ****er off her relatives. She lived in Hawaii for years, but only by "borrowing" a vacation house for those years. She didn't pay any of the taxes or rent, and actually had the nerve to bitch when they asked her to pony up some cash.

Now she lives in Park City AGAIN living with her relatives. My fiancee's grandma gives her, a grown woman, $600 in basically "pity cash" to get by on, while my fiancee and I who are FAR newer at living on our own than her nothing, which is fine by me, I don't like handouts. She's calling us and raising hell that we're having our wedding in the Keys saying it's too expensive for her.

I've got some news, if you can't afford it, don't come. I won't lose any sleep.

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Death to the moochers!

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Yes, and during Christmas I was down in Florida with her and her family and the grandma paid for everything. While we got something adequate, she would order 2-3 mixed drinks, a steak all the while complaining they had to hang out with grandma.

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I have this aunt that mooches off of me like a mofo. I can't say no to her because she is my mother's sister and my mother would be upset with me if I said something negative to her. So what I do? I just don't answer her phone calls. It works quite well. Hahah.

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The people who take handouts, are the ones who complain the most. People who work hard for themselves complain much less. I think it was Maslow who said that happiness comes from achieving goals. Freeloaders don't have many goals, and they don't achieve them. Therefore, they are not happy. Sucks for them. (but not really)

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[QUOTE=GhettoDogAllStars;271934]The people who take handouts, are the ones who complain the most. People who work hard for themselves complain much less. I think it was Maslow who said that happiness comes from achieving goals. Freeloaders don't have many goals, and they don't achieve them. Therefore, they are not happy. Sucks for them. (but not really)[/QUOTE]

Who knew GhettoDogAllStars was so deep? :)

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[QUOTE=saden1;271941]Who knew GhettoDogAllStars was so deep? :)[/QUOTE]

Hey, don't let the screen name fool you. hehe. ;)

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Yeah, it sucks, even though the things I could do with six hundred extra bones a month would be excellent. But in the end, I'd just feel like grandma's bitch.

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Life is too short to bog yourself down by worrying about the fate of losers like this. Cut these people out of your life altogether.

Makes it tough when it's your wife's brother. But definitely don't pay any money on his behalf. If you can't convince your wife to completely sever ties with him, at least don't enable his pattern of illegal behavior. Giving him ANY kind of help would do just that.

And NEVER buy into their claims that they plan to reform. For every 1 guy you're wrong about, you'll be right about 99 of them if you simply assume that their claims are full of shitake mushrooms.

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I have helped this person before only to have it blow up in my face. When he was first arrested in '00 i think, he was charged with Distribution of heroin. He gave me this big sob story about how he was framed. He told me it was all a setup. Somebody came to his house to drop "something" off that somebody else was supposed to come by later and pick that "something" up. When the other person came by, he was wearing a wire.

The only reeason I helped him out is because there was a child involved. His girlfriend was in trouble too because she was there and the state was gonna take his kid. I gave him $3000 for a lawyer retainer fee. Of course here it is 7 years later and I have yet to see a dime of that money.

The thing that gets me the most is what he did this time to get arrested. Stealing from people who have already lost everything. If he is willing to do something like that, why would he care about stealing something from me? He has already stolen from his dad. His mother put up her home to get him out of jail the last time. Now that he is in N.O. i don't know if she is gonna lose her home or not.

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Mooches are the worst! My best man for my wedding is a moucher. I have been friends with him since like 3rd grade. I hate it. Now he is saying he has no money to come visit for the bacholer party but I know he buys weed all the time and just got a new plasma. He just doesn't want to spend money on non-fun things. It is so irrating.

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dude, i feel you. but in the end, you have to do what is in your heart. looking in from the outside, its easy to see that this guy is a loser. but when family is involved, sometimes its hard to say no

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[QUOTE=mredskins;271952]Mooches are the worst! My best man for my wedding is a moucher. I have been friends with him since like 3rd grade. I hate it. Now he is saying he has no money to come visit for the bacholer party but I know he buys weed all the time and just got a new plasma. He just doesn't want to spend money on non-fun things. It is so irrating.[/QUOTE]

What?! Isn't the best man supposed to organize and lead the bachelor party? That's crazy man.

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[quote=GhettoDogAllStars;271957]What?! Isn't the best man supposed to organize and lead the bachelor party? That's crazy man.[/quote]

Thank you! It all comes around if he ever gets married I would do it for him

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He is the type of guy when people buy rounds of drinks and it comes his turn....no where to be found!

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[quote=dmek25;271954]dude, i feel you. but in the end, you have to do what is in your heart. looking in from the outside, its easy to see that this guy is a loser. but when family is involved, sometimes its hard to say no[/quote]I have tried so hard to get my wife to see that there is no hope for him. Its very hard being that he is her blood. For years we fought about this subject every time he got in trouble. She tried to defend him as a victim of circumstance every time. It took a great deal of time to get her to understand that he was putting himself into those situations and when it all boils down to it, it IS his fault.

Like my ole man used to say:

"Hang around a barber shop long enough, you are gonna get a haircut!"

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No offense, but doesn't sound like much of a best man...

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BD I agree. Just one of those life situations. I think my other buddys are steping up to the plate to help out. they all know how he is.

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I used to be friends with a pathological liar and it got so bad that I pretty much stopped hanging out with him (except he has season tix, so I still go to games with him). Over the summer he started telling people that his brother (who I am also friends with) got into a fight while on vaction in Europe and ended up in a coma! He was practically crying when he told me this story, and if I didn't know any better I might have bought it.
Anyways, about two days after I hear this sad story, and have to hear about how it's made him such a wreck that he had to quit his job I get an email from his brother about Skins training camp or something.

I can no longer stomach hanging out with the guy, unless it's for a tailgate and game.

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[QUOTE=mredskins;271952]Mooches are the worst! My best man for my wedding is a moucher. I have been friends with him since like 3rd grade. I hate it. Now he is saying he has no money to come visit for the bacholer party but I know he buys weed all the time and just got a new plasma. He just doesn't want to spend money on non-fun things. It is so irrating.[/QUOTE]

What's more fun than being at a bachelor party and having bouncy tities in your face? He should be labeled an acquaintance at best.

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[QUOTE=ArtMonkDrillz;271967]I pretty much stopped hanging out with him (except he has season tix, so I still go to games with him). [/QUOTE]

So you're in it for the tickets eh?

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[quote=mredskins;271905]I use to date a girl whose family was always f..ed up. They were basically homeless. I love the excuses that were thrown out every day. NEVER ASK HOW THEIR DAY WAS. Oh god that what start the crying and begging for money.[/quote]
So when you went out on a date where did you pick her up?

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[quote=mredskins;271952]Mooches are the worst! My best man for my wedding is a moucher. I have been friends with him since like 3rd grade. I hate it. Now he is saying he has no money to come visit for the bacholer party but I know he buys weed all the time and just got a new plasma. He just doesn't want to spend money on non-fun things. It is so irrating.[/quote]
Find a new best man and friend he is the one who should be honored to be your best man and is suppose to throw the bacholer party. My best man was happy to do this for me and I have been happy to do the same when I was a best man. Just because you have known him sense third its time to move on. I had a friend who I grew up with and he never seemed to have money or a job just seemed to call when we where heading out in the boat for the day and stuff like that. He is still a friend but we have grown apart and he is far from my best friend. If I see him out its nice to see him have a drink and talk some of the past but thats what it is the past.

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[QUOTE=saden1;271994]So you're in it for the tickets eh?[/QUOTE]
I'll admit it, I am. But, I am friends with his brother (they share the tickets) and I always pay up front.

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[quote=mredskins;271965]BD I agree. Just one of those life situations. I think my other buddys are steping up to the plate to help out. they all know how he is.[/quote]
Maybe you should ask one of your other buddies to be your best man and explain to you other (friend?) why you did what you did.

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I just hate financially irresponsible people. I have family that has the nicest things (car, gadgets, you name it they have it) but they are constantly broke. Some times to the point where they don't have money to do anything but pay their bills.

And then of course there the family whose parent's have so much money they hardly do anything. I have this cousin who has the asshole and me-me-and-me gene. She got a job at an architectural firm fresh out college and within a month she told her boss to **** off because she wasn't designing buildings right off the bat.

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[quote=saden1;272006]I just hate financially irresponsible people. I have family that has the nicest things (car, gadgets, you name it they have it) but they are constantly broke. Some times to the point where they don't have money to do anything but pay their bills.

And then of course there the family whose parent's have so much money they hardly do anything. I have this cousin who has the asshole and me-me-and-me gene. She got a job at an architectural firm fresh out college and within a month she told her boss to **** off because she wasn't designing buildings right off the bat.[/quote]

that is really bad, especially in your firm job.

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wow, not nearly as much experience with such ordeals here. can't say i'm too sad about that though.

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[quote=firstdown;271995]So when you went out on a date where did you pick her up?[/quote]

She lived in an apartment with roommates. She basically had her shit together it was her family that was f-ing around.

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[quote=firstdown;271999]Find a new best man and friend he is the one who should be honored to be your best man and is suppose to throw the bacholer party. My best man was happy to do this for me and I have been happy to do the same when I was a best man. Just because you have known him sense third its time to move on. I had a friend who I grew up with and he never seemed to have money or a job just seemed to call when we where heading out in the boat for the day and stuff like that. He is still a friend but we have grown apart and he is far from my best friend. If I see him out its nice to see him have a drink and talk some of the past but thats what it is the past.[/quote]

FIRSTDOWN! Sorry I can't say that with out yelling. I agree but for the sake of the drama train rolling through my wedding day, I will just stick it out. he lives in the mid west now so I hardley see him.

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[quote=mredskins;272096]FIRSTDOWN! Sorry I can't say that with out yelling. I agree but for the sake of the drama train rolling through my wedding day, I will just stick it out. he lives in the mid west now so I hardley see him.[/quote]
I know how those wedding things go and its not good to tick off the soon to be wife. Good luck.