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Ok most of you know that I live with my girlfriend and everything has been fine up until now. Now I know that women have their moods and everyone needs space once in a while but this is crazy. Everything I do now seems to piss her off. I took her car to get new tires and an oil change (something she never does) and she says "I don't need you to do anything for me" Ok then. That was 3 weeks ago, then today when I get home from work and say hey baby how are you she says "I didnt ask you to ask me how I am doing! WTF!!!! Ok maybe I am doing something wrong so I am asking the path for advice what should I do????

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Time to be a man dog. Tell her to get her act together cause you won't put up with her shananigans for much longer and that's being nice. As a matter of fact ignore her altogether and do you.

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Two questions

1. When you took the car to get tires and the oil changed we you expected to be doing something else? Did you forget something?

2. When you asked how she was doing did you forget to do something that she had asked you to do earlier?

If the answer to both of those is "No" then take Sadden's advice.

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Well, I think you should maybe communicate and ask her if something is up 'cause she's been short and snappy with you and if she says "nothing", and doesn't engage in a convo, let it go. If she continues to act all crazy then you can let her know that it is not ok the way she's acting towards you. If she is unwilling to communicate at that point, give her a taste of her own medicine. Retreat, be aloof, don't ask her ANYTHING and don't do a goddamn thing for her. Let's see how long that lasts. Could be the beginning of the end if no resolution is met. In the words of George Costanza, you need "hand".

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Dude I've been in your shoes multiple times, maybe you should just ask her straight up if something is wrong. And if it keeps up then be a man about it like saden said.

From what I've learned is just talking about stuff in the open saves a lot of time and future misunderstandings.

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And its corny, but if its meant to be it is. Meaning if she is gonna flip for stupid stuff and take it too seriously without apologizing, changing, etc. time to get moving. If your relationship matters it will work out and she will get over herself.

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It sounds like she is feeling crowded (I have to ask, is it possible she is pregnant? if so, and it wasn't planned, she could be feeling cornered and scared about telling you- that could lead to the I don't need you type mentality)
If she's not pregnant, and this is new behavior, then something has changed and you should try and ask her to talk about it. if she doesn't then see Saden's advice

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Time to trade her in.

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I think she's jealous because you miss TAFKAS...but do you ever tell her you miss her?

Seriously though, the day I understand women is the day Buster votes for Hillary

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I'd start by asking her what's wrong, because it sounds like she's got something on her mind. Is she pregnant, losing her job, sick, anything major like that she's not telling you?

Take the interest to ask her what's wrong first. If the answer is nothing and she's still being a bitch, then bounce. There are other fish in the sea.

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[quote=Schneed10;539630]I'd start by asking her what's wrong, because it sounds like she's got something on her mind. Is she pregnant, losing her job, sick, anything major like that she's not telling you?

Take the interest to ask her what's wrong first. If the answer is nothing and she's still being a bitch, then bounce. There are other fish in the sea.[/quote]

Listen to the Schneed.

On the other hand though, if you're living together and have been dating for what like 3-4 years now, then maybe you need to ask yourself (and her) why isn't she comfortable talking to you about major issues. I mean it's not always easy, but still life isn't all fun and games always. And neither is love

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Isn't quake dating DynamiteReaven?

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Remember though, once you do roll out, don't go back! You could find yourself in a situation like [URL="http://www.news.com.au/heraldsun/story/0,21985,25239996-663,00.html"]this[/URL].

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[quote=EARTHQUAKE2689;539588]Ok most of you know that I live with my girlfriend and everything has been fine up until now. Now I know that women have their moods and everyone needs space once in a while but this is crazy. Everything I do now seems to piss her off. I took her car to get new tires and an oil change (something she never does) and she says "I don't need you to do anything for me" Ok then. That was 3 weeks ago, then today when I get home from work and say hey baby how are you she says "I didnt ask you to ask me how I am doing! WTF!!!! Ok maybe I am doing something wrong so I am asking the path for advice what should I do????[/quote]

Since you didn't marry her yet (thank God), tell her to straighten up or she's kicked out.

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[quote=SmootSmack;539632]Listen to the Schneed.

On the other hand though, if you're living together and have been dating for what like 3-4 years now, then maybe you need to ask yourself (and her) why isn't she comfortable talking to you about major issues. I mean it's not always easy, but still life isn't all fun and games always. And neither is love[/quote]
Both SS and Schneed bring good points to the table.
She could be thinking she's got 4 years invested in you........and no ring!
OR, she's trying to ditch you, and wants you to make the move.
[B]Hope it works out for you Quake![/B]

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Um... it's seriously time to mix things up for her. Become distant and moody yourself. Start by waking up in the morning 2 hours earlier than usual for no reason and leaving the house. Just go sit at denny's or something and read the paper. When she asks, tell her you went running, but don't bother explaining why you don't have running clothes with you. When you get home, have flowers with you, but don't give them to her... give them to your dog. Go to great lengths to make sure she knows they're for the dog. If you don't have a dog or other pets, give them to your neighbor. Just someone she will see so you can rub it in her face. Start texting her mom seriously perverted pictures and off color jokes that get forwarded to you... preferably pictures of outrageously large penises. Include in the subject line "this is me ;)" Start selling things at random without talking to her about it. IE: the television. Take it off the wall as she's watching a show, but do not explain to her what you are doing.

At this point, she's disparately trying to figure you out. You have her undivided attention and thoughts once again. She won't be able to resist you and she'll start choosing her battles a lot more carefully. It is now at this time you must finish her. Call her by her sister's name in bed. If she doesn't have a sister, us her mother or hot cousin, or best hot friend. Try not to let her squirm away (if you do this from behind, grab a handful of her hair first.. this is called the "rodeo f***"). Afterward tell her it really wasn't any good anyway and that she has a lot to learn. Suggest that your friends teach her and set up a "play date"

If she hasn't gotten the hint by that point that bitch is crazy. run.

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[quote=EARTHQUAKE2689;539588]Ok most of you know that I live with my girlfriend and everything has been fine up until now. Now I know that women have their moods and everyone needs space once in a while but this is crazy. Everything I do now seems to piss her off. I took her car to get new tires and an oil change (something she never does) and she says "I don't need you to do anything for me" Ok then. That was 3 weeks ago, then today when I get home from work and say hey baby how are you she says "I didnt ask you to ask me how I am doing! WTF!!!! Ok maybe I am doing something wrong so I am asking the path for advice what should I do????[/quote]Schneed's advice is direct and to the point and at the end of the day IMO your best bet. Problem is, whatever's bothering her has obviously been festering for a while and she's not communicating it to you (really doesn't matter what the issue is). This does not make for a solid long term relationship. I've been with my wife for over 10 years and married for 9 in May, she definitely has her moods and 'tudes, but I never have to go more than 24 hours to find out what's up. If you step up, try to talk with her about it, and you get a negative response, sad to say but it may be best to move on.

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Broads are a dime a dozen. If you came home after work and she didn't have anything ready to eat then you should've dumped her then. Unless you like getting punked, there's no reason to accept that. There's no reason to for anyone to talk to each other like that in any relationship. That's just common.

I mean you were doing your part. You hooked up her chariot and she acts like that? If she isn't pregnant then kick her to the curb quick. Remember, it's your world. She's just a squirrel trying to get a nut.

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I'd agree with other points made here too. You want to take the interest, inquire as to what's wrong, offer her the opportunity to tell you what's bothering her without coming down on her.

After you've heard what she has to say, just calmly explain that regardless of what's going on she shouldn't take it out on you. Say hey, I'd prefer that you talk to me and feel comfortable enough to tell me anything - this way you don't feel like you're bottling it up.

But no matter what you can't treat me like crap or I won't stick around, whether you're pregnant, sick, jobless, or simply moody.

Be point blank about it, be matter of fact, don't be inflammatory or raise your voice, just a direct even-keeled message. Because what she's doing to you is very passive aggressive; being snappy, not giving you the full story, but never coming out and directly dealing with her problem. The absolute best way to deal with a passive aggressive person is take them head on with a direct, but calm, message.

You take the interest and you ask her to open up, and then you communicate that you simply won't stand for the attitude. And if it continues, like I said, bounce.

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[quote=EternalEnigma21;539664]Um... it's seriously time to mix things up for her. Become distant and moody yourself. Start by waking up in the morning 2 hours earlier than usual for no reason and leaving the house. Just go sit at denny's or something and read the paper. When she asks, tell her you went running, but don't bother explaining why you don't have running clothes with you. When you get home, have flowers with you, but don't give them to her... give them to your dog. Go to great lengths to make sure she knows they're for the dog. If you don't have a dog or other pets, give them to your neighbor. Just someone she will see so you can rub it in her face. Start texting her mom seriously perverted pictures and off color jokes that get forwarded to you... preferably pictures of outrageously large penises. Include in the subject line "this is me ;)" Start selling things at random without talking to her about it. IE: the television. Take it off the wall as she's watching a show, but do not explain to her what you are doing.

At this point, she's disparately trying to figure you out. You have her undivided attention and thoughts once again. She won't be able to resist you and she'll start choosing her battles a lot more carefully. It is now at this time you must finish her. Call her by her sister's name in bed. If she doesn't have a sister, us her mother or hot cousin, or best hot friend. Try not to let her squirm away (if you do this from behind, grab a handful of her hair first.. this is called the "rodeo f***"). Afterward tell her it really wasn't any good anyway and that she has a lot to learn. Suggest that your friends teach her and set up a "play date"

If she hasn't gotten the hint by that point that bitch is crazy. run.[/quote]

Now THIS is a PLAN!!

It's so well rounded that is must be borne out of dilligence and experience. How many times have you perpetrated this scheme and do you think you'll ever "perfect" it?

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[quote=EternalEnigma21;539664]Um... it's seriously time to mix things up for her. Become distant and moody yourself. Start by waking up in the morning 2 hours earlier than usual for no reason and leaving the house. Just go sit at denny's or something and read the paper. When she asks, tell her you went running, but don't bother explaining why you don't have running clothes with you. When you get home, have flowers with you, but don't give them to her... give them to your dog. Go to great lengths to make sure she knows they're for the dog. If you don't have a dog or other pets, give them to your neighbor. Just someone she will see so you can rub it in her face. Start texting her mom seriously perverted pictures and off color jokes that get forwarded to you... preferably pictures of outrageously large penises. Include in the subject line "this is me ;)" Start selling things at random without talking to her about it. IE: the television. Take it off the wall as she's watching a show, but do not explain to her what you are doing.

At this point, she's disparately trying to figure you out. You have her undivided attention and thoughts once again. She won't be able to resist you and she'll start choosing her battles a lot more carefully. It is now at this time you must finish her. Call her by her sister's name in bed. If she doesn't have a sister, us her mother or hot cousin, or best hot friend. Try not to let her squirm away (if you do this from behind, grab a handful of her hair first.. this is called the "rodeo f***"). Afterward tell her it really wasn't any good anyway and that she has a lot to learn. Suggest that your friends teach her and set up a "play date"

If she hasn't gotten the hint by that point that bitch is crazy. run.[/quote]

I like the way you think.

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In regard to the thread title... women can always get crazier. They have no limits.

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[quote=Mattyk72;539713]In regard to the thread title... women can always get crazier. They have no limits.[/quote]

Are you speaking from experience or anecdotally? :food-smil

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I agree w/ EE and the others... give her a taste of her own medicine so to speak. But don't be surprised if she just ups the ante on you and becomes unbearable.

... i don't know why but by age 19 or so i pretty much decided most women, and i'm gonna say like 99% of those i've known, are in one way or another manipulative, deceiving or at best speak a totally different language than all guys (meaning indirect and coded language LOL). Personally i can't stand that crap and figured i'd just never commit to anyone... i guess i have to admit luck kicked in cuz in my whole life i've met one straightforward woman and she thinks i'm alright too... after almost 10 years it still works

... i still can't stand about 99% of the female population though LMAO.

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[quote=EARTHQUAKE2689;539588]Ok most of you know that I live with my girlfriend and everything has been fine up until now. Now I know that women have their moods and everyone needs space once in a while but this is crazy. Everything I do now seems to piss her off. I took her car to get new tires and an oil change (something she never does) and she says "I don't need you to do anything for me" Ok then. That was 3 weeks ago, then today when I get home from work and say hey baby how are you she says "I didnt ask you to ask me how I am doing! WTF!!!! Ok maybe I am doing something wrong so I am asking the path for advice what should I do????[/quote]

Don't know if this has been said, just saw your comment and wanted to respond.
I can't speak for everyone, but I've noticed that when people are either cheating, or interested in someone else, they seem to have MUCH shorter fuses. Not saying that your g-friend is interested in either, just making an observation that you might want to look into. Even in my own life, near the end of my relationship with my ex, I was much less tolerant of things she did, and had a much smaller fuse. I hope this is not the case man, and I wish you the best.
The ONLY way to get over this is to communicate with her. Gotta sit her down and be 100% honest and see what she says.

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[quote=EternalEnigma21;539664]Um... it's seriously time to mix things up for her. Become distant and moody yourself. [/quote]

OK, not to insult eternal enigma, I'm sure your comments were made with the best of intents, but this is not good advice quake. This will create more problems. You want to solve problems. Communication and honesty is always the key. When that is gone, the relationship is gone.

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[quote=EARTHQUAKE2689;539588]Ok most of you know that I live with my girlfriend and everything has been fine up until now. Now I know that women have their moods and everyone needs space once in a while but this is crazy. Everything I do now seems to piss her off. I took her car to get new tires and an oil change (something she never does) and she says "I don't need you to do anything for me" Ok then. That was 3 weeks ago, then today when I get home from work and say hey baby how are you she says "I didnt ask you to ask me how I am doing! WTF!!!! Ok maybe I am doing something wrong so I am asking the path for advice what should I do????[/quote]

What a bitch... do you live with her, does she live with you, or is it split?

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[quote=Angry;539596]Two questions

1. When you took the car to get tires and the oil changed we you expected to be doing something else? Did you forget something?

2. When you asked how she was doing did you forget to do something that she had asked you to do earlier?

If the answer to both of those is "No" then take Sadden's advice.[/quote]

Man even that is letting a girl take you by the balls... It's your girl not your mom

no respect = no relationship

go sell her tires

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Sorry EQ, but it sounds like she's just picking fights because she's looking for an out. Jsarno hit the nail on the head with the short fuse comment.

As for the other random comments about women in this thread, I thought you guys were better than that. Hmmm... on second thought...

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[quote=Lady Brave;539770]Sorry EQ, but it sounds like she's just picking fights because she's looking for an out. Jsarno hit the nail on the head with the short fuse comment.

As for the other random comments about women in this thread, I thought you guys were better than that. Hmmm... on second thought...[/quote]

Hey, what's a little sexism amongst friends right?

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[quote=FRPLG;539774]Hey, what's a little sexism amongst friends right?[/quote]
Riiiiight...

;)

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[quote=tryfuhl;539747]Man even that is letting a girl take you by the balls... It's your girl not your mom

no respect = no relationship

go sell her tires[/quote]


No, I was not justifying her actions. I was just trying to see if there might have been an underlying reason to her snappiness. You can give a woman the world, but if she was expecting the moon instead, then you will hear about it. It is up to you to point out the fact that she got the world instead of the moon. If no compromise is made and she still bitches then there are problems.

Edit (Just because I know LB is reading) At that point you sit her ass in the corner of the kitchen with a potato peeler, bag of potatoes, and a trash can.

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Here is what you do:

Send her flowers at work. Women love flowers at work, It's proof to her coworkers that there is a person on earth that can stand her.

Go shopping for the items needed for the following advice.

Make her dinner with a quality bottle of wine.

Ask her about her day and mention that you think you would like her parents to move in with your guys when you guys start having kids.

Watch a nice romantic movie and kiss her lightly whenever they kiss in the movie.
Don't start fooling around! Tease her a little.

Walk her into the bedroom and tell her you want her to wear [URL="http://www.extremerestraints.com/images/dw101xx.jpg"]This[/URL] and make passionate love to you.

If she refuses and runs for her life, You had a good woman and the problem is you.

If she nails you, You should kick her out and have her brother move in.

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[quote=Angry;539778]No, I was not justifying her actions. I was just trying to see if there might have been an underlying reason to her snappiness. You can give a woman the world, but if she was expecting the moon instead, then you will hear about it. It is up to you to point out the fact that she got the world instead of the moon. If no compromise is made and she still bitches then there are problems.

Edit (Just because I know LB is reading) At that point you sit her ass in the corner of the kitchen with a potato peeler, bag of potatoes, and a trash can.[/quote]
LOL... Thankfully, my husband doesn't like potatoes very much.

Seriously though, it would be nice if you guys could learn to insert the word "some" when talking about women, instead of always generalizing. We're not all crazy you know. :)

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[quote=Lady Brave;539781]LOL... Thankfully, my husband doesn't like potatoes very much.

Seriously though, it would be nice if you guys could learn to insert the word "some" when talking about women, instead of always generalizing. We're not all crazy you know. :)[/quote]


Ok, from now on I will use some women...

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[quote=Lady Brave;539781]LOL... Thankfully, my husband doesn't like potatoes very much.

Seriously though, it would be nice if you guys could learn to insert the word "some" when talking about women, instead of always generalizing. [B]We're not all crazy you know.[/B] :)[/quote]

So you're part of that 1% [I]and[/I] a Skins fan!!! Your husband is one lucky guy LB... ;)

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[quote=Angry;539783]Ok, from now on I will use some women...

Edit: pun intended[/quote]
It was funnier without the edit.

;)

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[quote=Lady Brave;539786]It was funnier without the edit.

;)[/quote]

If you say so. It is fixed. For a minute there I didn't think that anyone got it.

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[quote=The Goat;539784]So you're part of that 1% [I]and[/I] a Skins fan!!! Your husband is one lucky guy LB... ;)[/quote]
He'd probably feel even more lucky if I was a Steelers fan.

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[quote=Lady Brave;539788]He'd probably feel even more lucky if I was a Steelers fan.[/quote]

Yeah but then you'd be unbearable.