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This has to be the most annoying thing ever. If its not meeting with the wedding planner, its the caterer, or picking flowers or registering for presents and I swear if I taste one more "cake sample" heads are gonna roll.

Sorry had to get that off my chest but this sh** is infuriating as hell.

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Go to Vegas. No inlaws, no cateering, no relatives straight out of rehab, no ex's showing up out of the blue. Simple.

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Believe me I've thought about it but that's outta the question. BTW I hate my future mother-in-law

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I hear you on this. When I was getting married, my father in law said he would give me $30k to put down on a house or he would pay for the wedding... like an idiot, I left that decision up to my wife. Just remember, it's her day, you're just there to fill the suit, dance and smile for the pictures.

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[quote=BleedBurgundy;778004]I hear you on this. When I was getting married, my father in law said he would give me $30k to put down on a house or he would pay for the wedding... like an idiot, I left that decision up to my wife. Just remember, it's her day, you're just there to fill the suit, dance and smile for the pictures.[/quote]

Oh I got that. I'm just sick of getting up st 6am on my day off to look at silverware and center pieces.

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Ahhh Quake! Engaged! Good for you man.

I just got married last June, so all this stuff is fresh in my mind.

I handled some specifics as far as the layout of the venue (where in the resort the rehearsal dinner/reception was held, seating charts, etc), and I also handled the food and wine selections. I of course also handled the wardrobe for me and my groomsmen. It was a beach wedding, so it was more casual than your typical black tux church weddings.

But everything else, literally everything else, was handled by my wife, my mom, my stepmom, my sister-in-law and my mother-in-law. Between those five ladies, they pulled together a kick ass wedding, complete with a website.

Brooke (my wife) ran every little thing by me (like the place settings, flowers, etc), but in the end she knew I didn't really care as long as it made her happy.

In summary, I oversaw some major details and made sure they were in line, but little details I let her micro-manage until her heart was content.

I mean, do I really give a shit if one set of flowers is pink and the other is white? The typical conversation was more like her saying, "hey babe I chose this for the centerpieces, pretty cool, huh?" And then I'd say, "yeah those look great!" End of story.

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[quote=BleedBurgundy;778004]I hear you on this. When I was getting married, my father in law said he would give me $30k to put down on a house or he would pay for the wedding... like an idiot, I left that decision up to my wife. Just remember, it's her day, you're just there to fill the suit, dance and smile for the pictures.[/quote]

Count this as a guy that's not married, but also one that won't marry just to be such. If someone offers me 30k towards a house or a wedding and the girl doesn't take the house, I realize what she's all about. If it's "her day" then trust me it'll be her day much longer past.

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[quote=GMScud;778008]Ahhh Quake! Engaged! Good for you man.

I just got married last June, so all this stuff is fresh in my mind.

I handled some specifics as far as the layout of the venue (where in the resort the rehearsal dinner/reception was held, seating charts, etc), and I also handled the food and wine selections. I of course also handled the wardrobe for me and my groomsmen. It was a beach wedding, so it was more casual than your typical black tux church weddings.

But everything else, literally everything else, was handled by my wife, my mom, my stepmom, my sister-in-law and my mother-in-law. Between those five ladies, they pulled together a kick ass wedding, complete with a website.

Brooke (my wife) ran every little thing by me (like the place settings, flowers, etc), but in the end she knew I didn't really care as long as it made her happy.

In summary, I oversaw some major details and made sure they were in line, but little details I let her micro-manage until her heart was content.

I mean, do I really give a shit if one set of flowers is pink and the other is white? The typical conversation was more like her saying, "hey babe I chose this for the centerpieces, pretty cool, huh?" And then I'd say, "yeah those look great!" End of story.[/quote]

yessir, colors and coordination.. fine.. who cares

the bigger stuff.. FUU

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Once you have kids wedding plans will look like vacation.

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[quote=mredskins;778022]Once you have kids wedding plans will look like vacation.[/quote]

The great thing about that is that neither of us want kids.

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[quote=EARTHQUAKE2689;778040]The great thing about that is that neither of us want kids.[/quote]

Yeah we went through that too, trust me it's more than likely you will change your minds

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I went to D.C. this x-mass to do just this sort of thing. Fortunately I went to one cake place and we both liked their cake (Silvas Pastry in Vienna). Unfortunately I spend two hours the next day with the mother in-law and fiance talking to the follower people we hired as they discussed flowers and drapes, table cloths and a host of other shit. It was brutal.

I rationalized this torment by telling myself it's an assessment of what I'm paying for. Plus she really did most of the work...I imagine she has spend 100+ hours on this thing already compared to my 8 hours.

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[quote=EARTHQUAKE2689;778040]The great thing about that is that neither of us want kids.[/quote]

What are you going to do when one of you wants kids?

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[quote=saden1;778043]What are you going to do when one of you wants kids?[/quote]

That one won't be me so we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.

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[quote=Mattyk;778041]Yeah we went through that too, trust me it's more than likely you will change your minds[/quote]

Alot of people have been telling us that.

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Good Luck bro..

Women go beastmode on you the closer it gets to wedding day lol

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[quote=skinsfaninok;778085]Good Luck bro..

Women go beastmode on you the closer it gets to wedding day lol

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Yeah I got yelled at today for taking too long filling up the car so we were 2 minutes late to a meeting.

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Well if you found one of the .08% of women who are being honest when they say they don't want kids you'll be fine. Otherwise....

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[quote=FRPLG;778157]Well if you found one of the .08% of women who are being honest when they say they don't want kids you'll be fine. Otherwise....[/quote]

I hope she is part of that .08% but we will see.

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When it came to planning a wedding I let my wife and her parent handle just about everything. I helped with the bar and the band. The band was actually one that I played in and my buddy filled in on drums. I'm sorry but I really don't give a shit what the flower look like or what color the table cloth is. My wife came up with giving these out as gifts with our names on them and the date of our wedding. My friends were impressed. Yes, it does not take much to impress them.

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[quote=BleedBurgundy;778004]I hear you on this. When I was getting married, my father in law said he would give me $30k to put down on a house or he would pay for the wedding... like an idiot, I left that decision up to my wife. Just remember, it's her day, you're just there to fill the suit, dance and smile for the pictures.[/quote]

Her decision deserves a :doh: .

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As much as us guys may hate to admit it, the wedding day is all about the bride. It really is her day! After all, her family is usually the ones who pay for the wedding.

I personally look more forward to the honeymoon anyways!

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[quote=skinsguy;778417]As much as us guys may hate to admit it, the wedding day is all about the bride. It really is her day! After all, her family is usually the ones who pay for the wedding.

I personally look more forward to the honeymoon anyways![/quote]

You're right on all points...but c'mon...couldn't talk her into $15K for the wedding (still a GREAT event) and $15K for a house? :D

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[quote=EARTHQUAKE2689;778040]The great thing about that is that neither of us want kids.[/quote]

We've been down that road too, and honestly I'm starting to thaw my stance a little bit while she is still saying she wants none. I don't think she realizes that we're almost 30 and basically it's our window now.

I hope you guys are 100% sure because it's one of those things that could totally come to a head.

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My parents in their 60's now have a couple of long couple friends that i know as will and they are childless. 2 out of the 3 choose not to have kids the other try but never were able too. I say just meeting and dealing with them today they all see now they missed out a big chunk of life.

The one that wanted but never were able to always took my sister and I places and babysat us when we were younger. They are the most hurt IMO, they have even offer to watch my son from time to time.

Kids are expensive a huge pain in the ass but nothing nothing in this world is better then your kids. There is no $ or material thing I would take in place of my son, NOTHING and I would give everything away that I have now to keep him if I had too.

I think one of the best sayings I have ever heard about children is this. [I]You can't imagine having them but once you have them you can't imagine not having them. [/I]

Quake and TMC seriously reconsidered having children you would be missing out IMO on the best part of life if you don't have any.

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Basically I have one thing left in my life I want to do and that's visit Europe extensively... After that, I'm ready to settle in and settle down and have some mini-Malcolms.

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I didn't want to get married till I turned 30, but I got married at 24. Then I didn't want to have kids till I was 35 but had our first when I was 27. Things change.

Our first wasn't planned, that's why you get nine months to get ready!

You've got plenty of time, just be mindful of the female biological clock, if your girl changes her mind and wants kids at 32 then she's fine. Much past 35 though and the risk of down syndrome and autism starts climbing.

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Wedding planning did suck balls though. Honey do you want a band or a DJ? I don't care. Do you want blue dresses with silver vests & ties, or hunter green dresses with tan vests and ties? I don't care. Do you want centerpieces with lilies and blue roses or carnations? I don't care. Do you want this china pattern or that china pattern. I DON'T CARE.

Just promise me there will be open bar, and let me plan the honeymoon.

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[quote=Schneed10;778474]I didn't want to get married till I turned 30, but I got married at 24. Then I didn't want to have kids till I was 35 but had our first when I was 27. Things change.

Our first wasn't planned, that's why you get nine months to get ready!

You've got plenty of time, just be mindful of the female biological clock, if your girl changes her mind and wants kids at 32 then she's fine. Much past 35 though and the risk of down syndrome and autism starts climbing.[/quote]

Well we are both in our early 20's so we have time if we change our minds.

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[quote=Schneed10;778475]Wedding planning did suck balls though. Honey do you want a band or a DJ? I don't care. Do you want blue dresses with silver vests & ties, or hunter green dresses with tan vests and ties? I don't care. Do you want centerpieces with lilies and blue roses or carnations? I don't care. Do you want this china pattern or that china pattern. I DON'T CARE.

Just promise me there will be open bar, and let me plan the honeymoon.[/quote]

Open bar yes and honeymoon is all mine.

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Keep in mind that while a ceremony is for the 2 of you, the reception is just one big party for your family and friends.

From what I remember (having kids also kills brain cells), my wife did most of the planning, because she knew I didn't care and because she knew that it was more for her than me. I did the leg work for the reception hall and the DJ (a good friend of mine), tuxes, groomsmen gifts and the honeymoon. She did the rest, and let me in when a final decision needed to be made. Which made it easy was she pulled from her Aunt and cousins who planned a few weddings, so they had great vendors to work with.

Oh, and when you go to register for wedding gifts, she better damn well let you use the pricing gun. That by far is the best part of her schelping you around to all these damn places!

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[quote=Dirtbag359;778002]Go to Vegas. No inlaws, no cateering, no relatives straight out of rehab, no ex's showing up out of the blue. Simple.[/quote]

Exactly what we did, except we brought along close family and friends. Had about 40 people in all, it couldn't have worked out any better.

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Her sister gets in town this weekend so I will get to watch football and sleep in.

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i just got married about 3 months ago in october and it's a bitch especially the last week or two, the bachalor party will be much needed by then. my wedding was a pain for me because we had it at her parents house and since i'm a general contractor i got to run all the electrical and build a "few" things for the wedding and for my future inlaws(who are awesome soryy, bout your mother inlaw) but overall the best advice i could give you is to agree with damn near everything even if you really don't, but make it seem like you care, the last thing you want is a whole "you don't even care" senerio.

bottom line is you will be married at the end of the day and everyone you care about will be there to celebrate it with you. driving to my wedding was pretty awesome i was already a little buzzed and on the way there i just realized that i was driving to one of the greatest events of my life. it's kinda hard to explain but just knowing everyone you know will be there to celebrate you is a pretty cool feeling.

good luck with everything and just remeber to enjoy it, you can basically get away with murder that night, it's awesome.

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[quote=Mattyk;778532]Exactly what we did, except we brought along close family and friends. Had about 40 people in all, it couldn't have worked out any better.[/quote]

Mad respect yo...I tried to get her to go along but failed miserably.

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I'm in the time of planning my wedding too. I dont know what's worse though, a fiancee that's as laid back as me or one that's like a drill sargeant where she's all business. We are getting married 4 months from yestarday and i feel we don't have anything done except the church (her dad's a preist) and the reception hall. That's it

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[quote=BleedBurgundy;778004]I hear you on this. When I was getting married, my father in law said he would give me $30k to put down on a house or he would pay for the wedding... like an idiot, I left that decision up to my wife. Just remember, it's her day, you're just there to fill the suit, dance and smile for the pictures.[/quote]

Oh sweet Jesus... no way.. that'd make me change my mind on its own lol.. not to mention I don't wear rings

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Oh.. I've posted in this long ago.. off to the drunk thread!

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[quote=WaldSkins;880063]I'm in the time of planning my wedding too. I dont know what's worse though, a fiancee that's as laid back as me or one that's like a drill sargeant where she's all business. We are getting married 4 months from yestarday and i feel we don't have anything done except the church (her dad's a preist) and the reception hall. That's it[/quote]
Congrats to you and your fiancée.

If it helps, set up a two-column checklist. Outstanding items and who will take care of it on the left, and then the vendor and pricing on the right and knock out a few things a week. Don't leave it until the last minute, as that will make for a hellacious couple of weeks and no time to enjoy yourselves on the special day. And good luck!

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A bottle of tequila and a Universal Life church minister named Jeb. That's all you need for a wedding.