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Originally Posted by skinsfaninok
Good answers rave and Giantone, I've spoken to an AF rec and an Army and I feel like the AF was more family friendly but it's also more competitive to get in is what I gathered anyway. It's a very hard decision, my aunt and grandma who are very close to me feel like its a bad idea since I am married and have 2 kids (4) and (2) years old. They want me and my family to move to NY and start a new life tgere instead. My wife is on the fence about it , she understands the pros and cons and on one side I'd love to be apart of a team again, and be serving my country, and on the flip side I would also hate to have my wife alone for long periods of time raising our kids. What do you guys think? Would it be worth it for someone in my shoes.
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I was in the Army, met my wife while stationed in Germany, served five years of non combat duty. I would strongly advise you against joining at this point in your life for several reasons.
1 I saw many marriages end due to the long separations required by the military.
2 no matter what a recruiter will tell you there are no sympathies for separated families. That is a huge part of military life
3 even slim the risk of the loss of your life is a huge sacrifice to put before your children, going in knowing you could leave a 2 yo and 4yo fatherless in less than a year ought to be enough reason not to
4 short of full family backing (I mean 110 percent) there will be a lot of second guessing and bitterness when your second unaccompanied (no wife no kids no no one except local ladies) kicks in.
Single young dumb and full of ... go for it, married 2 kids, other opportunities (exciting or not) don't do it. I almost guarantee you will regret it.
If you choose to go anyway, my next statement would be to go in to the air force, although its still going to take you away, they do try to give you more normalized hours, my experience with the army as a mil. police was that there was little to no effort for giving family time value, it was almost looked at with disdain.
That's my thoughts, no disrespect to current serving soldiers meant by it.
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