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Originally Posted by CRedskinsRule
jsarno,
I don't have much advice to offer, I have been through divorce, and been with a woman who had her own kids. What I want to tell you, is that the kids may never understand. The best you can do is be a good man and treat them with a respect that, at times, you may find hard to find.
I am not a lawyer, but I believe leaving a note like you wrote would look very bad(abandonment/not making an effort-in the courts view), and unless any abuse has been recorded it likely won't have very much bearing.
It sounds like a very tough path, and you have my heartfelt wishes that you will find your way through it. (writing rarely can convey true emotion, and this is definitely one of those times.)
Godspeed.
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Point #1, as someone who went through a similar situation as a kid, I can say it's definitely very tough to deal with. I'm not sure that there's any good advice to give, just treat the kids with respect and be as understanding as possible, and give them space when they need it. And like someone already mentioned NEVER talk trash about their father.
Regarding the note, it definitely does not sound like a good thing to do. Do the right thing and go about things the proper way.
As for a job, get on the horn with some recruiters or professional temp agencies. Pound the pavement and don't rely on online job banks.