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Old 03-03-2009, 02:07 PM   #103
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Re: advice needed...

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Originally Posted by jsarno View Post
I guess it is more of negotiation than blackmail, but to say i'll let you go if you give me 50/50, otherwise I won't certainly sounds blackmailish to me. Oh well. I do not want to keep the kids from him, he is the father.
And I guess you still don't get my point, this man is not negotiating, blackmailing, or anything else. He is accepting a surrender of 3/4's of his life. The wife, maybe not so much, but his kids -- are you S****** me, he is not negotiating, he is not blackmailing, you are tearing them away from him, and he is surviving.
and then you give what sounds like a throwaway line of "he is the father." I don't really care how much he does or does not interact with them, he was there for the months before they were born, the birth, the days after their birth, the night feedings, the diaper changes, the first steps etc. he didn't not experience the passion and pride of being a father. Maybe he didn't display affection to your satisfaction, and maybe he is a lousy husband. but you aren't just taking away his wife, or negotiating a 50million dollar stock deal. you are invading his home and his wife has joined you so he is marking his territory, and his values.

i wish for you happiness, but the way you describe the scenario, is like me describing the FO's latest and greatest move even when the rest of the Warpathers are telling me its a mistake. I hear no recognition in your tone that you get the fact that just cuz the kids think you are cool, does not translate to them loving their dad any less.
I doubt I will respond any more Jsarno, I HOPE you have a happy life, and I am sure your intentions are good. Please tread carefully kind sir.
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