Originally Posted by Schneed10
Congrats Scud! So happy for you.
- Aruba was indeed awesome. I loved it, can't wait to go back.
- Sex with the same person over and over loses some of the excitement, no doubt. If you've been together seven years you probably experienced this in some form already. I'm your age, but from what I read as you age your hormones naturally change, so both of you will feel a decreased appetite at times in your life. But it's OK, it's not about quantity it's about quality. As long as it's good for both of you, you'll be enjoying life. Like anything else, you get back what you put into it (pun intended).
- The when to have kids matter is one that draws strongly varied opinions. I had my first at 27 so I guess I'd consider that on the young side these days. There's no right or wrong. If you have them real early then maybe you're not mature enough to be a parent, maybe not financially secure enough, maybe you just have things you want to do first. Maybe you're not done growing up yourself and aren't fit to give somebody else guidance yet.
Then again though, if you have them too late, you risk birth defects (women over 35 have a much higher chance of having babies with Down Syndrome or Autism). You also wonder if you'll have the energy to keep up with an 8 year old when you're 45. And you burden yourself financially with consecutive huge bills in your 50's and 60's. First feeding a growing teenager, then right into college, then right into your retirement. Leaves you little time/flexibility to travel the world, or whatever.
I personally think age 30 (for the woman) is the perfect balance of all of the above. But everyone's different, every situation is different, so there's no right or wrong.
TMC and Matty give the view of the married couple without kids, but let me tell you that as someone who has young ones, don't be scared of it. It seems like a big scary thing that will totally change your life. But if you and your wife accidentally get pregnant, it will end up being the happiest thing. Fun does not end, the definition of fun simply changes. If you and your wife love each other and know how to live a fun life together, kids won't change that. Promise.
Now that I have kids, I don't find myself looking forward to my 50s when I can travel the world with my wife, I look forward to taking them to the beach and watching their eyes light up when they see the ocean.
Life's a fun ride, it's all good, don't fear any of it. You're a well-adjusted guy, you'll be happy with anything life throws your way.
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