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Originally Posted by SolidSnake84
Hey good morning everyone again.
Last night didn't go so well. I was watching the Skins game alone, because my wife went to visit her parents because it was her brother's 19th birthday.
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I will continue to pray and seek advice from people and start getting a gameplan together, because I do believe now that this is the beginning of the end.
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I read this awhile ago, so sorry for jumping in late. Ignoring all the stuff that went on, your first bit seems to set a bit of a tone, and your last sentence completes it. You say you were watching the game alone, and I read it like you were blaming her for that fact, when in fact, it was a preseason game. If you want to be getting "cuddly" with your wife you should have been at her brother's b'day party. Right there you are choosing football over family, at least possibly in her eyes, and it was important enough to her that she went. You then go on a bit of a rant against her actions, but really from her eyes were your actions any less self serving, sure you did the massage and everything, but she probably was ticked off that you didn't go with her and the minute she gets home you are on her like a cat in heat.
Then you end with a doom statement, that this is the beginning of the end. Boy, if she catches that vibe from you, I am sure that would make her want you all the more. It just seems, and of course not having a real inkling of anything other than words on screens, that you are not really looking at yourself through her eyes. How different could Friday have been, if you had gone to the B'day party, made every effort to stay in good graces with her family (i also assume that there is some blocks there or else you would have gone), and then driven her home, and shared more intimacy, up to but not necessarily including sex. Instead, you watched your game, maybe sulking that you were alone - maybe not, she comes home, and you start doing your lets be intimate dance, which she probably knows and by then was already not in the mood for. Further, she probably started off thinking, well let's do this and that way he's off my back for a while, but as the massaging went on, her mind went back to the things that she was ticked about thus leading to the tirade.
Finally sorry for the poor paragraph/grammer. keep writing some then working then writing etc...