Advice On Women Thread.

[12thMan]

So fellas I got a situation on my hands. I guess I'm not really soliciting advice as much as I want you guys to sort of weigh in...and if you have some advice for a brotha, let 'er rip.

First, let me give you some context. This is a little boring and long, but relevant.

I was in a serious relationship a little over a year ago. As serious as I've been for a long, long time. So my girlfriend's career takes a turn and her to Sudan for like two years. At first she didn't think she'd get hired. In fact, she wasn't even interested, but the minute she told me they were courting her I knew in my gut she was out of here. But at the time we were like, no biggie we'll see what happens. I'll visit Sudan, we'll Skype, talk every day and everything will be cool. She ships off, I cry at the airport like a little bitch and took my lonely, sad ass home.

The ensuing weeks and months I became disinterested and we didn't Skype as often. (Google Skype if you don't what it is). Long story short, she visited D.C. a few times before I could get to Sudan and we officially broke things off, oh, I guess at the beginning of this year. We remain good friends though. She's truly the best thing to ever happen to me. Super smart chick (in a Joe Gibbs sort of way). I have no idea what she wanted with me. It actually pains me, in a good way, to see GMScud and some of you guys pull the trigger, because I'm thinking that should be you.

I'm very long winded, bear with me. Since then I've been dating here and there, but nothing remotely serious. Just hook-ups basically. So recently me and a good friend started hooking up on a regular basis. We met on the Obama campaign a few years ago, but never spent much time together until we both got involved with Haiti. We created all these rules as to not get attached to one another and decided to keep things on the DL (if you don't know that means, your ass is old!) because we knew it wasn' t going to last long enough for it to even matter. But here's the rub fellas, we were spending time together like a couple and I caught some feelings. Yep, your boy 12th. But this girl, like the first one, is possibly leaving for Sudan or some other region in Africa soon. On a side note, and at the expense of sounding slightly racist, from here on out I'm only dating chicks with green card status or who can't leave the ****ing country. Seriously.

[Sigh]

Now we've broken things off, but remain very much in each other's space and talk all the time. The reason we decided to break things off is because we both agreed that if the other wanted to date someone else and it got serious, we would stop end it and stop having sex. I've since created more rules to keep my heart from being broken. I don't want to talk to her more than twice a week, but she's not complying. She finds a reason to text, email, call or we see each other at friends house. She's been seeing some asshole for two weeks, and it didn't work out. So here we are.

QUESTION:

How should I play this going forward?