It doesn't take long to satisfy a woman in bed (from fox news)

[Warpath]

FOXNews.com - Optimal Sex Takes 3 to 13 Minutes, Study Finds - Health News | Current Health News | Medical News
NEW YORK — Maybe men had it right all along: It doesn't take long to satisfy a woman in bed.

A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes. The findings, to be published in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, strike at the notion that endurance is the key to a great sex life.

If that sounds like good news to you, don't cheer too loudly. The time does not count foreplay, and the therapists did rate sexual intercourse that lasts from 1 to 2 minutes as "too short."

Researcher Eric Corty said he hoped to ease the minds of those who believe "more of something good is better, and if you really want to satisfy your partner, you should last forever."

The questions were not gender-specific, said Corty. But he said prior research has shown men and women want foreplay and sexual intercourse to last longer.

Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, cited a four-week study of 1,500 couples in 2005 that found the median time for sexual intercourse was 7.3 minutes. (Women in the study were armed with stopwatches.)

It's difficult for both older men and young men to make sexual intercourse last much longer, said Marianne Brandon, a clinical psychologist and director of Wellminds Wellbodies in Annapolis, Maryland.

"There are so many myths in our culture of what other people are doing sexually," Brandon said. "Most people's sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are."

Fifty members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research in the U.S. and Canada were surveyed by Corty, an associate professor of psychology at Penn State Erie, The Behrend College, and student Jenay Guardiani. Thirty-four members, or 68 percent, responded, although some said the optimal time depended on the couple.

Corty said he hoped to give an idea of what therapists find to be normal and satisfactory among the couples they see.

"People who read this will say, 'I last five minutes or my partner lasts eight minutes,' and say, 'That's OK,' " he said. "They will relax a little bit.

[onlydarksets]

Originally Posted by Warpath

If that sounds like good news to you, don't cheer too loudly. The time does not count foreplay, and the therapists did rate sexual intercourse that lasts from 1 to 2 minutes as "too short."

What's that?

[jsarno]

See angry, I TOLD you 1 minute of sex with your spouse is not enough...gotta make it 3 minutes or it's just not worth it!

[KLHJ2]

Originally Posted by jsarno

See angry, I TOLD you 1 minute of sex with your spouse is not enough...gotta make it 3 minutes or it's just not worth it!

If I give her 3 min., she will want 6, so I tell her 1 and a half. She gets her 3 minuites, but I'm watching the clock. She gets a 3% time increase every year, while I get a 25% decrease in frequency every 6 months. Before you know it I am going to be 35 and having sex twice a year for 5 minuites. LOL!

Edit that was an overly dramatic exaggeration. Please do not take literally.

[724Skinsfan]

Originally Posted by angryssg

If I give her 3 min., she will want 6, so I tell her 1 and a half. She gets her 3 minuites, but I'm watching the clock. She gets a 3% time increase every year, while I get a 25% decrease in frequency every 6 months. Before you know it I am going to be 35 and having sex twice a year for 5 minuites. LOL!

Edit that was an overly dramatic exaggeration. Please do not take literally.

Yep, that's about right. no not an exaggeration...{sigh}

[skinsguy]

Man, so it really is true that when you get married, your sex life is over?

[KLHJ2]

Originally Posted by skinsguy

Man, so it really is true that when you get married, your sex life is over?

Not over, but on life support.

[Monkeydad]

Originally Posted by angryssg

Not over, but on life support.

Speak for yourself.



This is obviously written by someone with less-then-adequate "skills".

[KLHJ2]

Originally Posted by Buster

Speak for yourself.



This is obviously written by someone with less-then-adequate "skills".

I am. Anytime you have someone who can break out defibulator to jumpstart their wifes sexdrive, I would say that they have extraordinary skillz.

[Monkeydad]

Originally Posted by angryssg

I am. Anytime you have someone who can break out defibulator to jumpstart their wifes sexdrive, I would say that they have extraordinary skillz.

Thank you.

[Summo]

Judging by what I'm reading I'm guessing allot of you married guys (and you wives) are younger then your mid to late thirties and you female partners haven't hit their sexual prime yet. My wife did in the last year (when she turned 38) and we have been married for 13 years up until then and let me tell you our sex life has hit levels I never imagined it would. Not that it wasn't any good before, but it got allot better, and much more frequent. (It helps if you’re really in love as well!)

[KLHJ2]

Originally Posted by Summo

Judging by what I'm reading I'm guessing allot of you married guys (and you wives) are younger then your mid to late thirties and you female partners haven't hit their sexual prime yet. My wife did in the last year (when she turned 38) and we have been married for 13 years up until then and let me tell you our sex life has hit levels I never imagined it would. Not that it wasn't any good before, but it got allot better, and much more frequent. (It helps if you’re really in love as well!)

So what you are saying is that in 2 years it's ON! Sweet, I cannot wait!

[Schneed10]

Originally Posted by Summo

Judging by what I'm reading I'm guessing allot of you married guys (and you wives) are younger then your mid to late thirties and you female partners haven't hit their sexual prime yet. My wife did in the last year (when she turned 38) and we have been married for 13 years up until then and let me tell you our sex life has hit levels I never imagined it would. Not that it wasn't any good before, but it got allot better, and much more frequent. (It helps if you’re really in love as well!)

Yeah that's true, from a hormonal perspective women tend to hit their stride sometime in their 30s. I wonder if that's an evolutionary thing; maybe women evolved to have a big sex drive around that time in order to get preggers and reproduce before menapause hits.

But whatever, there's some medical evidence to back that up. It doesn't happen to every woman the exact same way or at the exact same time, but most women will see an uptick in sex drive sometime in their 30s.

Tough thing is men tend to begin slowly losing testosterone levels at age 30. So a lot of the times men see a decline in sex drive. But if you stay in shape, specifically keeping your muscle mass up through your 30s, you'll likely stave off those effects.

Hit the weights and then hit that!

[jsarno]

Originally Posted by Summo

Judging by what I'm reading I'm guessing allot of you married guys (and you wives) are younger then your mid to late thirties and you female partners haven't hit their sexual prime yet. My wife did in the last year (when she turned 38) and we have been married for 13 years up until then and let me tell you our sex life has hit levels I never imagined it would. Not that it wasn't any good before, but it got allot better, and much more frequent. (It helps if you’re really in love as well!)

Good points. I didn't really think about the age. My wife is 34 and it's gotten better each year.

[Schneed10]

Originally Posted by skinsguy

Man, so it really is true that when you get married, your sex life is over?

Depends on the woman you marry. We go hot and cold, I guess her hormones are cyclical or something. One week it will be three times a week. Then it can be a number of weeks with nothin.

Dry spells aren't a big deal though as long as the sex you do get is really good. Quality over quantity, any day. The quality is easily the most important thing.