understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

tryfuhl · 08-13-2010, 02:09 AM

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Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

DUDE. I'm not hijacking this at all, but that makes me want to flip my shit. I don't mind not getting a piece, but don't get my hopes up.

seriously... don't mention shit you're not going to do

imagine if you said I'd like to go to blah blah restaurant and then are like tonight isn't good, she'd prob flip her shit

on a bday the girl I was dating said she wasn't going to give me any after I said I wanted my 2nd part of my presents.. it took her 4 freaking hours to say it was the day she was SUPPOSED to go on her period as an excuse instead of telling me to begin with.. well she rarely got period symptoms on her BC.. I just ignored her all day, she came over and gave it to me proper

tryfuhl · 08-13-2010, 02:12 AM

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Originally Posted by 724Skinsfan

6 years + 3 kids. Sex and marriage in the same sentence just seems odd to me.

you did the quantity > quality thing it seems haha

tryfuhl · 08-13-2010, 02:13 AM

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Originally Posted by jamf

Uh I was going to send you a private message but your inbox is full.

D, Do you mind if I call you D?
My name is Rocky.
I like long walks on the beach, banana cream pie, raves and zesty attorneys.
My favorite Redskin is Ricky Sanders.
I'm disease free( for the last 3 months straight!!!!) and love puppies.
Email me if you have time: smootsmackhas3testicles@gmail.com

LOL! especially bold

KLHJ2 · 08-13-2010, 02:48 AM

OMFG this thread is redonkulous. jamf you are my new hero.

Edit: I'm just lucky I guess. I cannot complain about not getting it. I actually put up a stink when we do it the same way more than twice. She aint as limber as she used to be.

I changed my post because it was confusing and misleading. If I would have changed it to read the way that I wanted I would have come off as a huge asshole. I decided to go in a different direction.

SolidSnake84 · 08-13-2010, 07:05 AM

Okay good morning guys,

here are the updates so far. I got home last night, and tried talking to her. She was nice and she said that she cant just turn on a switch like guys and be ready to go. She says sometimes she is just tired and cant get in the mood.

No sex last night again, but at least she wasnt mean and i feel like we made progress. We have an easy weekend coming up, she doesnt work at all, so there is plenty of time to try and get something started.

Thanks again, this is an ongoing saga and i'll keep you updated.

SmootSmack · 08-13-2010, 07:13 AM

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Originally Posted by jamf

uh i was going to send you a private message but your inbox is full.

D, do you mind if i call you d?
My name is rocky.
I like long walks on the beach, banana cream pie, raves and zesty attorneys.
My favorite redskin is ricky sanders.
I'm disease free( for the last 3 months straight!!!!) and love puppies.
Email me if you have time: smootsmackhas3testicles@gmail.com

lol!!!

MTK · 08-13-2010, 07:36 AM

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Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

Okay good morning guys,

here are the updates so far. I got home last night, and tried talking to her. She was nice and she said that she cant just turn on a switch like guys and be ready to go. She says sometimes she is just tired and cant get in the mood.

No sex last night again, but at least she wasnt mean and i feel like we made progress. We have an easy weekend coming up, she doesnt work at all, so there is plenty of time to try and get something started.

Thanks again, this is an ongoing saga and i'll keep you updated.

Take her out for a nice dinner this weekend, preferably to a place where there's no kids screaming and the menus aren't made out of plastic, have some good wine, bada-boom-bada-bing. Just don't be too desperate, at this point the ball is in her court. Let that kitty come to daddy.

CRedskinsRule · 08-13-2010, 07:48 AM

Just out of curiousity, are your work schedules off kilter. You said she doesn't work this weekend, does that mean that usually she works when you are at home and vice versa? Did either of your work schedules change recently, that might have impacted your time together?

Also being tired all the time, and loss of sexual desire are two very common symptoms of depression and/or anxiety.

MonkFan4Life · 08-13-2010, 08:09 AM

32 days ? Your bitching over 32 days ? Try 3 months.... ****ing 32 days. I can do 32 days without taking that long shameful walk down the stairs after striking out. Avoiding anything that can cast a reflection so I can avoid seeing the look of shame on my face. Then to the box that once housed my XBox 360 to find whatever I'll be watching for the next 30 min to an hour. Then to my Redskins Jewlery Box to get my loud pack and Backwoods. Burn one and Rub one. Wash the sadness and humility only to walk back up the stairs and look at that fine piece of ass that I call my wife. Who I'll proposition for sex tomorrow but she will just say that she doesn't feel like it because she's so damn tired..... ahhh

Well those days seem to be over now. I'm guaranteed weekends so I can live with that.

32 days.... that is boulderdash though. I'm just saying, don't leave it'll work itself out.

SolidSnake84 · 08-13-2010, 08:18 AM

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Originally Posted by CRedskinsRule

Just out of curiousity, are your work schedules off kilter. You said she doesn't work this weekend, does that mean that usually she works when you are at home and vice versa? Did either of your work schedules change recently, that might have impacted your time together?

Also being tired all the time, and loss of sexual desire are two very common symptoms of depression and/or anxiety.

She has a seasonal job during the summer that ends on October 31st. She usually works in the evenings.

During the regular part of the year, she works as a teachers assistant.

KLHJ2 · 08-13-2010, 08:20 AM

Shit, that's your problem right there. And you had us all worried. Breakfast in bed with a side of sausage should do the trick.

MonkFan4Life · 08-13-2010, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

She has a seasonal job during the summer that ends on October 31st. She usually works in the evenings.

During the regular part of the year, she works as a teachers assistant.

Ooooh yeah that sucks there. Whenever she is scheduled to be of, send her to a spa or something. Make everything all about her and see if that works.

SolidSnake84 · 08-13-2010, 08:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Angry

Shit, that's your problem right there. And you had us all worried. Breakfast in bed with a side of sausage should do the trick.

No No No....she usually has off like 3 or 4 free evenings a week. I thought her job was the problem, but it's not.

MonkFan4Life · 08-13-2010, 08:38 AM

Well Solid you just have to wait then. If it isn't the job, then it's just a chick thing. She'll come around eventually.

CRedskinsRule · 08-13-2010, 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Angry

Shit, that's your problem right there. And you had us all worried. Breakfast in bed with a side of sausage should do the trick.

+1

So if the 32 days (well 33 now I am guessing) takes you to early July, and then a few weeks before that, it seems like that matches up fairly closely to the start of her seasonal(summer) job.

As everyone (mostly) has said, listen to her, and get a feel for her rhythm with this job. Does she have days or times that are more energetic where a candlelight dinner, or breakfast in bed might lead to an encounter?

08-13-2010, 02:48 AM	#94
KLHJ2 Inactive Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: DC Metro Area Age: 47 Posts: 5,829	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? OMFG this thread is redonkulous. jamf you are my new hero. Edit: I'm just lucky I guess. I cannot complain about not getting it. I actually put up a stink when we do it the same way more than twice. She aint as limber as she used to be. I changed my post because it was confusing and misleading. If I would have changed it to read the way that I wanted I would have come off as a huge asshole. I decided to go in a different direction. Last edited by KLHJ2; 08-13-2010 at 08:48 AM.

08-13-2010, 07:05 AM	#95
SolidSnake84 Playmaker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Stephens City, VA Posts: 2,953	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? Okay good morning guys, here are the updates so far. I got home last night, and tried talking to her. She was nice and she said that she cant just turn on a switch like guys and be ready to go. She says sometimes she is just tired and cant get in the mood. No sex last night again, but at least she wasnt mean and i feel like we made progress. We have an easy weekend coming up, she doesnt work at all, so there is plenty of time to try and get something started. Thanks again, this is an ongoing saga and i'll keep you updated. __________________ Time to nut up or shut up

08-13-2010, 07:48 AM	#98
CRedskinsRule Living Legend Join Date: Aug 2008 Age: 58 Posts: 21,701	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? Just out of curiousity, are your work schedules off kilter. You said she doesn't work this weekend, does that mean that usually she works when you are at home and vice versa? Did either of your work schedules change recently, that might have impacted your time together? Also being tired all the time, and loss of sexual desire are two very common symptoms of depression and/or anxiety.

08-13-2010, 08:09 AM	#99
MonkFan4Life The Starter Join Date: Mar 2006 Age: 48 Posts: 1,851	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? 32 days ? Your bitching over 32 days ? Try 3 months.... **ing 32 days. I can do 32 days without taking that long shameful walk down the stairs after striking out. Avoiding anything that can cast a reflection so I can avoid seeing the look of shame on my face. Then to the box that once housed my XBox 360 to find whatever I'll be watching for the next 30 min to an hour. Then to my Redskins Jewlery Box to get my loud pack and Backwoods. Burn one and Rub one. Wash the sadness and humility only to walk back up the stairs and look at that fine piece of ass that I call my wife. Who I'll proposition for sex tomorrow but she will just say that she doesn't feel like it because she's so damn tired..... ahhh Well those days seem to be over now. I'm guaranteed weekends so I can live with that. 32 days.... that is boulderdash though. I'm just saying, don't leave it'll work itself out. __________________ Catch me on YouTube ! http://www.youtube.com/user/DowntimeRB?feature=mhw5 The "punishment" by the league : "It's like getting a ticket for going too fast on a road a week ago and they changed the speed limit today"**

08-13-2010, 08:20 AM	#101
KLHJ2 Inactive Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: DC Metro Area Age: 47 Posts: 5,829	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? Shit, that's your problem right there. And you had us all worried. Breakfast in bed with a side of sausage should do the trick.

08-13-2010, 08:38 AM	#104
MonkFan4Life The Starter Join Date: Mar 2006 Age: 48 Posts: 1,851	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? Well Solid you just have to wait then. If it isn't the job, then it's just a chick thing. She'll come around eventually. __________________ Catch me on YouTube ! http://www.youtube.com/user/DowntimeRB?feature=mhw5 The "punishment" by the league : "It's like getting a ticket for going too fast on a road a week ago and they changed the speed limit today"

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