understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

[Monkeydad]

Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

Hey guys im back. The weekend was kind of busy and I've got both good news and bad news to report.

I can tell you first that we made huge progress over the weekend. On Saturday we were together all day between going to yard sales and also going over to my father's for his birthday dinner. She told me that there are some nights that she is in the mood mentally, but physical exhaustion takes it from her.

She also told me that sometimes i annoy her or piss her off, leading to her not wanting to have sex. I guess there are annoying habits of mine that i am letting slip. (I had this problem when i was engaged).

And now the bad news: It will be Wednesday at the earliest that i can try again....Wife is having that monthly time....so i suffer a few more days, and hopefully end this horrible spell on Wednesday. Thanks everybody

Well, progress. That couch scene on Friday was BAD...she seemed psycho or..."out of town" in female terms, which was confirmed.

Of course, that may explain that particular moment of insanity but not the previous 5 weeks.

Crazy how she accuses YOU of leading her on and letting her down. That's almost laughable...like you'd actually turn her down if she wanted to do something.

I say keep talking, even if it only gets you a longer list of your offenses and complaints about you...it's something and progress.


If this continues on for another month, I'd SERIOUSLY try to get her into marriage counseling if you don't find out about any physical/medical/hormonal problems. It's no fun but it will be the only resort to try to save the relationship. You can't let her screw with your emotions and sanity constantly...or have all of the power in the relationship. No one party should, it needs to be a give-and-take thing, compromising to make the other person happy. If either one of you is only in it for your own personal happiness, no one will be happy.