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Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??
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Join Date: Feb 2004
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Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??
Firstdown and D-Rave were playing tennis yesterday, that's all
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Tennis? Sure...
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Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??
Geez, we're scarred now...much like FD's....nevermind.
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Join Date: Feb 2004
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Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??
This thread makes me thankful for my wife... she's DynamiteRave'esque, needs it at least 4-5 times per week, and we've been together for 7 years.
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Living Legend
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: chesapeake, va
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Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??
BB can you get her to talk to my wife I thought I was doing pretty good at once or twice a week. Not sure what our age difference is but that might have something to do with it.
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Playmaker
Join Date: Feb 2004
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Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??
I'm 30, she's 26, so yeah, that probably has something to do with it... but I'm going to enjoy it for as long as it lasts.
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Playmaker
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Stephens City, VA
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Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??
Hey good morning everyone again.
Last night didn't go so well. I was watching the Skins game alone, because my wife went to visit her parents because it was her brother's 19th birthday. When she came home, it was about quarter after nine. She sat down on the couch with me, and i began to wonder if I could try and get something going, so i cuddled with her a bit that at first she seemed receptive to. I was rubbing her shoulders, kissing her on the side of the head, etc... She then said the couch was uncomfortable, so she got up and laid on the other one to read a book. (Not interested in the game). I knew now that things were going downhill and i realized that any chance i had of getting anything going was over. I thought it was smart to abandon the plan because i knew she was only going to get furious if i kept trying. The game ended and I went to bed. I have to sleep on the farthest edge of the mattress because she doesn't like being touched and stuff while this drought has been going on. She got in bed angrily and called me a son of a bitch, and she said all i ever want to do when i get in bed is to sleep. I tried to reason with her, explaining to her that i knew she was tired tonight and that by reading her book, she wanted space from me, which i respected. She just got angrier and angrier as i tried to reason with her, and i knew that soon i was going to have to look for another place to sleep. (She will take the pillows and lay down on the floor if I don't leave at night, and she knows that i will feel sorry for her and want her to sleep in the bed, which i do, so i leave). I walked out into the living room at 11:30, sadly cracked open a 40 of Bud Ice that I had bought for this game, and started drinking it as I watched Mike Shanahan's post game conference. I drank the 40 and fell asleep. I woke up this morning at 3:30 and couldn't get back to sleep. Going back in the bedroom isn't an option either as she locks the door when i leave, and i could only break open the door with a sledgehammer. So I played Madden, all the while wondering what today was going to be like. She is at her parents house right now and running some errands. She said good morning to me, but i couldn't tell if she was being mean or sarcastic about it. I almost find myself waiting in fear for her next move... I had promise yesterday i thought, because she wanted to talk about the issues, but tonight was just a step in the other direction...I will continue to pray and seek advice from people and start getting a gameplan together, because I do believe now that this is the beginning of the end.
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Virginia
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She's mad at you. It's obvious. What is the question. I'm just guessing maybe throwing a hail marry who knows but my guess is .... she keeps coming home in hopes that you will have dinner for her or the house cleaned and instead she comes home to a house that still looks the same as she left and no dinner. It might even be that maybe she has dinner made or is making it for you during the other months and is wondering why you don't do it for her. I could be wrong but whatever "it" is she will continue acting like this until you figure "it" out. What I recommend..... write her a note telling how much you love her and what she does that makes you happy. Then tell her you have racked your brain and can't figure out what is wrong and that you hope she will tell you so you can correct it. I'm not saying act like a dog who's been scolded, just play the game. You see she is playing a game with you. She is mad at you and has cut you off to get your attention. That's a typical move from the female side. If you do love her and do want to be with her then you have to learn to play the game. It's obvious that out right talking to her will piss her off cause she thinks..."you should know what the problem is." So now play the game and write a nice note and mention that your oblivious to whatever you did or didn't do that has her upset and that you would like to correct it but can't if you don't know what the problem is. I guarantee after you leave the note and leave the house for whatever reason...work, icecream, shopping... whatever she will sit down with you and explain what the problem is. Oh and make up sex is awsome. ![]() |
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Living Legend
Join Date: Aug 2008
Age: 58
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Then you end with a doom statement, that this is the beginning of the end. Boy, if she catches that vibe from you, I am sure that would make her want you all the more. It just seems, and of course not having a real inkling of anything other than words on screens, that you are not really looking at yourself through her eyes. How different could Friday have been, if you had gone to the B'day party, made every effort to stay in good graces with her family (i also assume that there is some blocks there or else you would have gone), and then driven her home, and shared more intimacy, up to but not necessarily including sex. Instead, you watched your game, maybe sulking that you were alone - maybe not, she comes home, and you start doing your lets be intimate dance, which she probably knows and by then was already not in the mood for. Further, she probably started off thinking, well let's do this and that way he's off my back for a while, but as the massaging went on, her mind went back to the things that she was ticked about thus leading to the tirade. Finally sorry for the poor paragraph/grammer. keep writing some then working then writing etc... |
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Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??
Seems that you have some serious miscommunication going on. When you're both in a good mood and open to it, you need to have a serious talk where you both lay out your issues on the table and work through them... together. There's something bigger at play here. You need to find out what it is.
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