Life gives you one "do over"

[saden1]

I am my past...I wouldn't change a single thing.

[MTK]

Originally Posted by saden1

I am my past...I wouldn't change a single thing.

Cop out.

Come on play along, you don't have things you look back on and wish you could have done differently?

[saden1]

Originally Posted by Mattyk

Cop out.

Come on play along, you don't have things you look back on and wish you could have done differently?

Certainly there are things here and there I could change but those mistakes are things I've learned from. Who knows, if they didn't happen I might have made the same mistakes over again. Like my dad always use to say, "If you feel inadequate or down make it a point to learn something because you don't want to learn the hard way later on."

So no, it's not a cop-out. I value every moment of my past, including the bad moments.

[MTK]

Originally Posted by saden1

Certainly there are things here and there I could change but those mistakes are things I've learned from. Who knows, if they didn't happen I might have made the same mistakes over again. Like my dad always use to say, "If you feel inadequate or down make it a point to learn something because you don't want to learn the hard way later on."

So no, it's not a cop-out. I value every moment of my past, including the bad moments.

I get that. Our mistakes make us who we are are just like our successes. And no matter what path you choose, hindsight is always 20/20. There are no perfect lives of course, this thread is just asking what if you were given that one golden chance to make a different decision. What would you do differently?

[saden1]

Originally Posted by Mattyk

I get that. Our mistakes make us who we are are just like our successes. And no matter what path you choose, hindsight is always 20/20. There are no perfect lives of course, this thread is just asking what if you were given that one golden chance to make a different decision. What would you do differently?

My life turned out pretty damn good and I can't think of a single decision that has impacted my life negatively or that I truly regret



...but I would love to take back that one night where I left my friend with 4 beautiful girls a few years ago cause I was tired and found out next day that he took one of them home and that one of them was looking for me. I left dimes for sleep.

[Lotus]

There was a certain woman whom I dated several years ago whose destructive path in my life continues. It's a long story about how it all works out but, in the end, I didn't get a kid that I treasure or anything like that. Instead I got years of pain in the ass which continue long after we broke up. For example, she lied to me about her marital status but her crazy ex-husband blamed me and continues to do dirty things to me, despite the fact that I never would have been with her if I had known the truth.

[Trample the Elderly]

I wouldn't change a thing. There have been many eff ups and mistakes, things that could've been done differently but, I wouldn't go back and change them. My experience has made me the man I am, for better or worse. So be it.

[MTK]

Originally Posted by Trample the Elderly

I wouldn't change a thing. There have been many eff ups and mistakes, things that could've been done differently but, I wouldn't go back and change them. My experience has made me the man I am, for better or worse. So be it.

Funny/ironic/odd that you and saden have the same take...

Or maybe it makes complete sense.

[Trample the Elderly]

Originally Posted by Mattyk

Funny/ironic/odd that you and saden have the same take...

Or maybe it makes complete sense.

Saden can speak for himself.

The reason I wouldn't change is because of my beliefs. I'm tired of being stuck here time and time again.

It would be counter productive to go back and change my lessons without learning from them. This prison planet is tiresome and I want off.

It's not a cop out, it's an objective. I've got better things to do than to hang out at the zoo.

[Schneed10]

Originally Posted by Trample the Elderly

I wouldn't change a thing. There have been many eff ups and mistakes, things that could've been done differently but, I wouldn't go back and change them. My experience has made me the man I am, for better or worse. So be it.

This is a cop out my friend. Saden you too.

Saying this is akin to saying that you as a person have no need for improvement. Everybody's got wishes to be somehow better. Smarter, more qualified, in better shape, more friends, deeper relationships, making more money, have more free time, have more skills, take more risks, take less risks, wondered what it'd be like to be with the one that got away, wondered what it'd be like if you ran sooner from the one you shouldn't have been with...

There's always something that could have been better. Nobody's perfect, not even you, saden.

If you think you're good to go right now and wouldn't make any changes or erase any past mistakes, then I'd humbly suggest that you should make a change in the here and now: take a harder look in the mirror and see what you can do today to be better going forward. Don't settle, because nobody's perfect.

[saden1]

Originally Posted by Schneed10

This is a cop out my friend. Saden you too.

Saying this is akin to saying that you as a person have no need for improvement. Everybody's got wishes to be somehow better. Smarter, more qualified, in better shape, more friends, deeper relationships, making more money, have more free time, have more skills, take more risks, take less risks, wondered what it'd be like to be with the one that got away, wondered what it'd be like if you ran sooner from the one you shouldn't have been with...

There's always something that could have been better. Nobody's perfect, not even you, saden.

If you think you're good to go right now and wouldn't make any changes or erase any past mistakes, then I'd humbly suggest that you should make a change in the here and now: take a harder look in the mirror and see what you can do today to be better going forward. Don't settle, because nobody's perfect.

My goal in life is to seek happiness not perfection. The desire to be "smarter, more qualified, in better shape, more friends, deeper relationships, making more money, have more free time, have more skills, take more risks, take less risks" is something I can work on right now so why should I look to the past? As for "wondered what it'd be like to be with the one that got away" I can honestly say losing that one that got away was an asset as I learned a lot from that failed relationship...it really made me a better man and appreciate and understand my fiancé more.

No, I am not perfect nor do I desire to be. I am happy with who I am and what I have done in the past. Would I like to have attended Harvard? You bet. Can I still attend Harvard? You bet.