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Old 04-15-2022, 10:12 AM   #61
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Wonderful youth sports.

Its hockey try out season (worst time of the year).

This past Monday and Tuesday was the u14 try outs. A top middle and bottom team was selected. The majority of the kids in our program have skated at this club for a number of years. I say this because the director and all the coaches know the majority of the kids very well, there are no parent coaches.

Rewind 2 weeks ago the director of the club calls me and ask if my son and another boy would like to come out for a private skate with some other boys looking to join our club to build a top team. At the 14u level we are very thin especially when it comes to top talent.

The new coach evaluates my son and the other boy over two private skates held in the weeks leading up to official try outs. They come back to me and say your son and the other boy are on the team but please keep this quiet as we are still evaluating others. I said sure fine, not a problem.

Of course during the whole process, parents are constantly asking do you know anything what is going on etc etc...rumor mill. I just stay quiet.

I say there were 4 other OG club members that had a potential to land on this team, the top coach saw them skate at 4 events pre skate 1 pre skate 2 try out 1 and try out 2, i recommend all 4 and said they had been loyal to the program and deserved a opportunity to play on the top team.

The new coach of the top team after try outs picked one of the 4.

Well one of the 4 that didn't make is a fairly close friend to me. He found out the team was being assembled prior to official try outs and that my son had already been chosen prior to try outs. Well all hell breaks out and he is so mad at me. I went back to him and said look they asked me not to say anything and even if i had told him it made no difference they had no interest in his son at that level. I endorsed his son numerous times through the process his son skated in front of the top coach 4 different sessions. His son has been in the program for 4 years, they know his kid very well he didn't make the cut.

So am I the asshole here? or is this guy just pissed off his kid is on a lower team and is scapegoating me for his angry.

I do agree with him it is shitty when they do backdoor try outs and stuff but i also realize in order for this club to have a top team it was going to need verbal commitments from outside top players in order to pull this off, those top kids could go anywhere and all clubs try out at the same time.

If i reverse the clock; me telling him does nothing to help his kid; if anything it probably pisses him off in that moment plus makes his kid feel bad he was not being chosen. I apologized to him and he just basically blew me off. Good grief Charlie Brown.
Definitely not the asshole here. The club put you in a tough place. You're right, you telling him about your kid being given a pre-tryout spot would have no impact on his kid making it. Clearly, the coach thinks your son is better than him, so its not like you bumped him out of a spot. It was never his spot to begin with. Hopefully he gets over it.
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Old 04-15-2022, 10:36 AM   #62
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Definitely not the asshole here. The club put you in a tough place. You're right, you telling him about your kid being given a pre-tryout spot would have no impact on his kid making it. Clearly, the coach thinks your son is better than him, so its not like you bumped him out of a spot. It was never his spot to begin with. Hopefully he gets over it.
Yeah, it sucks. he is a very nice and i value his friendship. next year this time they easily all could be on the same team again, it goes in cycles.
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Old 04-15-2022, 10:53 AM   #63
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Yeah, it sucks. he is a very nice and i value his friendship. next year this time they easily all could be on the same team again, it goes in cycles.
I would hope after a couple weeks he cools down and you can have a discussion about what happened.
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I would hope after a couple weeks he cools down and you can have a discussion about what happened.
yeah i just left it with a apology and said if you like to talk be happy to do so

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yeah i just left it with a apology and said if you like to talk be happy to do so

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LOL, No , you're not the asshole here. First can I say I do not have a son and never played Hockey in my Life. I do however have three daughters who all played Soccer ,one at a pretty high level,she has 2 caps.(US Women's Indoor National team). Parents sometimes lack the objectivity in addressing their own children's ability. I say this not to be funny but in honesty, out of three girls one was very good ,one was decent , one was down right bad. It gave me perspective in what my kids wanted and they all did the same thing but wanted different things out of it. We, my Wife and I got the same treatment as you are now getting because we took our Daughter over to VA from Maryland to play. It was a move as parents we decided to do with her input because the situation(Coaching , teammates etc) was just better for our Daughter and that's what we had to live with ,didn't lose any sleep over it. I could go on but you get the drift,good luck!
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Old 04-15-2022, 02:24 PM   #66
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AITAH:

Wonderful youth sports.

Its hockey try out season (worst time of the year).

This past Monday and Tuesday was the u14 try outs. A top middle and bottom team was selected. The majority of the kids in our program have skated at this club for a number of years. I say this because the director and all the coaches know the majority of the kids very well, there are no parent coaches.

Rewind 2 weeks ago the director of the club calls me and ask if my son and another boy would like to come out for a private skate with some other boys looking to join our club to build a top team. At the 14u level we are very thin especially when it comes to top talent.

The new coach evaluates my son and the other boy over two private skates held in the weeks leading up to official try outs. They come back to me and say your son and the other boy are on the team but please keep this quiet as we are still evaluating others. I said sure fine, not a problem.

Of course during the whole process, parents are constantly asking do you know anything what is going on etc etc...rumor mill. I just stay quiet.

I say there were 4 other OG club members that had a potential to land on this team, the top coach saw them skate at 4 events pre skate 1 pre skate 2 try out 1 and try out 2, i recommend all 4 and said they had been loyal to the program and deserved a opportunity to play on the top team.

The new coach of the top team after try outs picked one of the 4.

Well one of the 4 that didn't make is a fairly close friend to me. He found out the team was being assembled prior to official try outs and that my son had already been chosen prior to try outs. Well all hell breaks out and he is so mad at me. I went back to him and said look they asked me not to say anything and even if i had told him it made no difference they had no interest in his son at that level. I endorsed his son numerous times through the process his son skated in front of the top coach 4 different sessions. His son has been in the program for 4 years, they know his kid very well he didn't make the cut.

So am I the asshole here? or is this guy just pissed off his kid is on a lower team and is scapegoating me for his angry.

I do agree with him it is shitty when they do backdoor try outs and stuff but i also realize in order for this club to have a top team it was going to need verbal commitments from outside top players in order to pull this off, those top kids could go anywhere and all clubs try out at the same time.

If i reverse the clock; me telling him does nothing to help his kid; if anything it probably pisses him off in that moment plus makes his kid feel bad he was not being chosen. I apologized to him and he just basically blew me off. Good grief Charlie Brown.

No your son’s club are the assholes for putting kids through fake tryouts.
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Old 04-15-2022, 02:30 PM   #67
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LOL, No , you're not the asshole here. First can I say I do not have a son and never played Hockey in my Life. I do however have three daughters who all played Soccer ,one at a pretty high level,she has 2 caps.(US Women's Indoor National team). Parents sometimes lack the objectivity in addressing their own children's ability. I say this not to be funny but in honesty, out of three girls one was very good ,one was decent , one was down right bad. It gave me perspective in what my kids wanted and they all did the same thing but wanted different things out of it. We, my Wife and I got the same treatment as you are now getting because we took our Daughter over to VA from Maryland to play. It was a move as parents we decided to do with her input because the situation(Coaching , teammates etc) was just better for our Daughter and that's what we had to live with ,didn't lose any sleep over it. I could go on but you get the drift,good luck!
Yeah it does suck, my son and daughter have both been on the short side of the stick. I have learned lets get over the drama of not making the team hoped for and focus on the team we made and how to get better. Thebest rule you can teach yourself and your children is its not fair, rarely is life fair.

Also and you touched on it your child and yourself need to embrace both their strengths and weakness, if you are solid A player go play A and enjoy the sport.
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Old 04-15-2022, 04:18 PM   #68
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Not the asshole to the other dad or his kid. As a kid who grew up playing youth hockey .. so many try outs, levels and politics. Me and 2 friends used the "carpool" excuse to go up together through the years.

Slight breach of protocol to tell the other dad what the Director told you in confidence to not tell anyone else.


edit -- my funnest years were when I was one of the best players in a lower level, skating around kids who just started, scoring hatties. Next year moved to upper house hockey and I was the newbie with guys skating circles around me, moved from wing to 3rd D pairing and saw little ice time. That was a shitty year.

Kid and his dad will have fun in the B league.
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A while ago I pretended to take cell phone photos of my lady when she was changing her bra with her boobies out .. and I figured shed get pretend offended, wed laugh and Id erase them.

But she didnt notice.

I kept the photos.

And now I take photos and video of her from time to time when her boobies are out .. and she doesnt notice. I email them to me then delete the photos off my phone.

I dont know what to do at this point.

Either:

1. delete the emails and stop

or

2. graduate to secretly video recording us having sex

I feel really weird abut this .. leaning towards deleting them, not like I ever go and look at them. More or less just fun to try and do it and not get detected
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A while ago I pretended to take cell phone photos of my lady when she was changing her bra with her boobies out .. and I figured shed get pretend offended, wed laugh and Id erase them.

But she didnt notice.

I kept the photos.

And now I take photos and video of her from time to time when her boobies are out .. and she doesnt notice. I email them to me then delete the photos off my phone.

I dont know what to do at this point.

Either:

1. delete the emails and stop

or

2. graduate to secretly video recording us having sex

I feel really weird abut this .. leaning towards deleting them, not like I ever go and look at them. More or less just fun to try and do it and not get detected
Option 1, definitely option 1!!
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Old 11-01-2022, 09:40 AM   #72
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Option 1, definitely option 1!!

Definitely this if you want to have the actual boobies around longer than the photos of the boobies.
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My roommate is my ex-girlfriend. We broke up well before I moved out here. But we remained good friends. So when I moved out here, she decided to move with me. But I told her I was getting my own place after our 1st lease at our apartment is up. Fast forward a year later...

I now own my condo. She was talking about buying her own place too. But then she decided she wanted to rent again. And she found a place literally in the exact same complex as mine. It's mix unit, has condos, apartments, and townhomes all within the same area. She was going to rent an apartment that was in the building directly adjacent to my condo. Like we would be able easily see the other person's home. I told her I did not want her to live there. I plan on starting to date again and want to eventually get married. It would in my opinion just be super awkward to have my ex-girlfriend living right next to me. Also, this will be my 1st time ever living on my own, having her right behind me, will almost be like we're still roommates. I want to experience this. I've always had to have roommates before. AITAH for saying that?

Now she's all pissed off at me and not speaking w/ me. Hopefully it's something she eventually gets over, as I still want us to be friends. And she doesn't know anyone else out here.
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I'd like to thank everyone here for the help!
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I'd like to thank everyone here for the help!
I wrote up something then didn’t posted it. I said to myself if you’re stupid enough to move across the country with an ex then be their roommate you’re just a fucking idiot not a asshole
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