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Originally Posted by Monkeydad
Married man advice here.
Don't play with fire. Although you cannot control your dreams and it IS absolutely freaky that someone in your dreams has appeared in real life, I would stay away from this woman. What is happening with her in your dreams will probably stick with you when you're awake and when you see her. This could give you thoughts and feelings for a complete stranger that you should not be having as a married man. This woman isn't in control of what happens in your mind while you're sleeping and is innocent in this strange situation. Don't pull her into your relationship with your wife. None of you deserve it over a dream.
Keep your distance. I can't emphasize that enough. It's not your fault that she's in your dreams but it will be your fault if you act and flush you marriage down the toilet.
Marriage is a long-long commitment not to be taken lightly and I know that you already understand that. There will be tests along the way and this, although your wife won't know about it, is one of them.
Telling your wife would seem like the right thing to do but then again, it will probably plant a seed of questioning your loyalty or trust. If it was just a dream, a wife would be ridiculous to hold that against you, but you're noticing this woman in real life too. Don't make your wife doubt you or not trust you. Just accept the challenge and stay loyal to her. YOU will know that you've passed the test and that's all that matters. Until you actually do something stupid like have lunch with this girl and tell her you're dreaming of her, you've done nothing wrong that you need to tell your wife.
Stay safe.
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I agree with monkeydad,well except for the tell your wife part,i think I'd just keep my mouth shut.
Whats up with saying"The worst part is i'm happily married"?
Why would you be upset that your happily married? If your happily married your just playing with fire approaching this girl