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[hooskins]

Originally Posted by Lady Brave

She did move away, my dad made that choice for her by leaving us. I guess I take issue with what you said about outside influences not being able to affect a relationship if it is really strong. My mother thought she had a strong relationship for the most part. No marriage is perfect. Funny thing is my dad always detested men who cheated on their wives. However, he made some very bad choices in his life and allowed temptation to ruin his family. He eventually became the thing he hated most.

On a side note, men are bombarded by sexual images everyday and I believe it can have affect. I have witnessed more marriages being ruined by a man's addiction to pornography than I care to count.

Although I do agree with your assessment about your mother's situation I dont know how you can prevent yourself from noticing things that are clearly out there. Something like pornography can be avoiding but is out there, and I think quite a bit of people are either into that or not. I dont think a man not into porno will just become addicted and destroy his marriage to it if he sees it once.

EDIT: The point is that simply getting rid of these sites in order to protect marriages is silly, IMO. I think a marriage that cant hold through something like a sugar daddy website is not a strong marriage at all.

[Lady Brave]

Originally Posted by hooskins

Although I do agree with your assessment about your mother's situation I dont know how you can prevent yourself from noticing things that are clearly out there. Something like pornography can be avoiding but is out there, and I think quite a bit of people are either into that or not. I dont think a man not into porno will just become addicted and destroy his marriage to it if he sees it once.

Just to clarify, it wasn't porn that caused my dad to have an affair. He simply became distant and started hanging out with more of a partying type crowd. There was a women who pursued him relentlessly until basically he finally caved in.

[hooskins]

Originally Posted by Lady Brave

Just to clarify, it wasn't porn that caused my dad to have an affair. He simply became distant and started hanging out with more of a partying type crowd. There was a women who pursued him relentlessly until basically he finally caved in.

I was assuming that was not the case. I was just using porn to make my point. See my previous post, I edited it a bit to clarify some more.

But Lady Brave, that must have been a tough time for your family. I can only imagine the pain it caused, and I do understand what you are trying to say. I don't fault your mother for his cheating, I think she did the right thing by moving on. I also dont think what your father did was right. I guess your father might be an example of a good person that made a bad mistake.

I guess every case is different.

[Lady Brave]

Originally Posted by hooskins

I was assuming that was not the case. I was just using porn to make my point. See my previous post, I edited it a bit to clarify some more.

But Lady Brave, that must have been a tough time for your family. I can only imagine the pain it caused, and I do understand what you are trying to say. I don't fault your mother for his cheating, I think she did the right thing by moving on. I also dont think what your father did was right. I guess your father might be an example of a good person that made a bad mistake.

I guess every case is different.

Well, I am a firm believer in you reap what you sow.

My mother pulled herself up, raised two teenagers on her own and sacrificed her own happiness for a time to make sure her children were well cared for. Since that time my mother married a wonderful man who treats her far better than my father ever did. She is better off physically, emotionally and financially than she ever dreamed she would be.

My father never recovered from the ordeal is still riddled with guilt, but he continues to blame everyone else for his faults. He's suffered two heart attacks and is currently on his third marriage.

[saden1]

Originally Posted by Lady Brave

Well, I am a firm believer in you reap what you sow.

My mother pulled herself up, raised two teenagers on her own and sacrificed her own happiness for a time to make sure her children were well cared for. Since that time my mother married a wonderful man who treats her far better than my father ever did. She is better off physically, emotionally and financially than she ever dreamed she would be.

My father never recovered from the ordeal is still riddled with guilt, but he continues to blame everyone else for his faults. He's suffered two heart attacks and is currently on his third marriage.

Love is painful and love lost is even more painful. Looks like your mom ended up getting into a better situation. It's all really a matter of happiness. I firmly believe if you're are miserable in your relationship it's best to part company.

Of course you have to accept and live with your decision. Obviously when children are involved it is a lot harder but staying together for the sake of the children is just not good for ones mental health.