Public Forums and Personal Attacks

[Schneed10]

I guess the "tasteful" part is the difficult part. The definition of "tasteful" probably varies amongst people.

When you're talking about making a comment on someone's appearance, exactly what is the tasteful way to say it? "I find you unattractive" is probably the most tasteful way you can lay it out; but it's still likely to incite anger or hurt feelings.

In the end, this picture issue probably won't be a big deal because it's not like people are posting their photos all over this site all the time. And I appreciate what you're trying to do, TMC. And I appreciate the willingness to allow opinions to be expressed. I guess someone's appearance is always going to be a touchy subject, no matter what. To me, the lesson is don't post your photo in public, and you won't give anyone anything to comment on.

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Originally Posted by Schneed10

I guess the "tasteful" part is the difficult part. The definition of "tasteful" probably varies amongst people.

When you're talking about making a comment on someone's appearance, exactly what is the tasteful way to say it? "I find you unattractive" is probably the most tasteful way you can lay it out; but it's still likely to incite anger or hurt feelings.

In the end, this picture issue probably won't be a big deal because it's not like people are posting their photos all over this site all the time. And I appreciate what you're trying to do, TMC. And I appreciate the willingness to allow opinions to be expressed. I guess someone's appearance is always going to be a touchy subject, no matter what. To me, the lesson is don't post your photo in public, and you won't give anyone anything to comment on.

Right. I've also been talking with hess via PM most of the hour about this situation and it's something that's pretty touchy since it's a pretty unique situation. Normally it's some asshole (usually from another team) that comes in here, starts crap and gets banned. It's cut-and-dry.

For this, I've been trying to look at it from both sides. I've looked at it from the fact that the internet is a public domain and that once something is posted it's publicly owned (basically).

I've also looked at it as the fact that while this IS the internet, this is also a private board with private rules. I'd also like to see what other mods think as well.

[Schneed10]

Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

Right. I've also been talking with hess via PM most of the hour about this situation and it's something that's pretty touchy since it's a pretty unique situation. Normally it's some asshole (usually from another team) that comes in here, starts crap and gets banned. It's cut-and-dry.

PS - Just for the record, I don't expect any special treatment because I've been around this site for a while. I would want the rules to apply to me just as they would to anyone else.

It's just that my interpretation of the rules leads me to believe that I'm 100% in the right on this one, regardless of whether or not I upset somebody.

A couple weeks ago I said something insensitive in a thread that upset SBF; I quickly apologized to him for it because I recognized I was wrong. I don't feel that way in this case.