Advice On Women Thread.

[firstdown]

You guys think too much. Just let things ride and if you fall for her or she falls for your then it is what it is. If she moves away then thats a part of life but to try and live life by trying to control your emotions and feelings is boring.

[mredskins]

Originally Posted by firstdown

You guys think too much. Just let things ride and if you fall for her or she falls for your then it is what it is. If she moves away then thats a part of life but to try and live life by trying to control your emotions and feelings is boring.

I agree with this, the whole only see her twice a week rule sounds really dumb and childish. What if you bump into her at the Metro and it is the third time that week, do you jump on the tracks to avoid the third visit????


I don't miss being single so many mind games!

[Slingin Sammy 33]

Originally Posted by 12thMan

Because honestly there are some things I can't stand about this chick. But generally speaking I love her to death. Know what I mean?

But def not next level intentions here. Maybe I'm just bored and I need something to fill my mind?

Those won't go away over time, only be magnified, and you'll probably find more stuff you can't stand about her. Enjoy the time you have with her for what it is, make this decision with your head, and when it's time to move on, move on (saden's 100% right about not being petty and immature, do it on your terms).

When you find the right one and the timing is right, you'll know. This one doesn't sound like she's it. Good luck.

[GhettoDogAllStars]

Originally Posted by 12thMan

Now we've broken things off, but remain very much in each other's space and talk all the time. The reason we decided to break things off is because we both agreed that if the other wanted to date someone else and it got serious, we would stop end it and stop having sex. I've since created more rules to keep my heart from being broken. I don't want to talk to her more than twice a week, but she's not complying. She finds a reason to text, email, call or we see each other at friends house. She's been seeing some asshole for two weeks, and it didn't work out. So here we are.

You can't be in this kind of relationship with someone you have feelings for. So, either tell her that, or just let it go.

[over the mountain]

Originally Posted by 12thMan

Per your usual, you're making a reasonable and sound argument. And I totally agree with you. But how do you know someone is marry material before you know? True, I'm not going to marry this girl but I'm not with anyone else either. So I'm kind of in no man's land.

It might not be until November before she figures out exactly where she'll end up.

This was a question I was wondering. Then one day I was at a bar (surprise surprise) with a buddy. the bar was empty except for us and the bartender we were cool with. then walks in this girl, she sits down starts pounding miller lites and is laughing and talking with the bartender whom she was friends with aswell.

im looking over at her and am like "damn, i wish that was my girl, cute, havin fun, not taking life to serious". i didnt mean a girl like that, i meant that girl. something inside of me just said thats the one right there for ya buddy.

at the time i was living with another girl, a total bitch. i tried breaking up with her many times to no avail, she was a she-devil. one day she said she was pregnant, had this black n white sonogram of a fetus in a picture frame engraved OTM's first baby. things just were not adding up. a few weeks later i found her invitro fertilization papers and kicked her out of the house.

a few weeks later, i was at that same bar, the miller lite girl was there, i took her out to dinner and since then we have been living together.

i guess my point is, and im sure you heard this before b/c i did, if you have to ask the question of "is this the one" or "how do you know", well then my friend, you already know the answer.

when you meet the one, you will know. she will knock you to the floor. you will have no doubts. your world, your life, your existence, what you want to do on any given night suddenly have the same answer. shes your world, your life, you exist to protect and grow old with her, your doing her on any given night.

thats where i am now. the whole kids thing is the next step. what we have now is perfect, i have ideas of watching my brothers and others with their kids and how that just gives two people who love each another, even more intense focus of that love . . . but man, freeak, screaming kids, no money for the honey, your life is suddenly about this lil baby that is a creation and extension of you and your lady. and all this lil love child does is scream and poop. then at 3-4 it gets all demanding. then at 13 it tells you it hates your guts every day. then at 18 it garnishes your wages so it can get drunk and party and say it is studying but the lil f'er is 200 miles away and you have no way of knowing. then it turns 21ish and suddenly loves you again.

[CRedskinsRule]

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Originally Posted by over the mountain

...but man, freeak, screaming kids, no money for the honey, your life is suddenly about this lil baby that is a creation and extension of you and your lady. and all this lil love child does is scream and poop. then at 3-4 it gets all demanding. then at 13 it tells you it hates your guts every day. then at 18 it garnishes your wages so it can get drunk and party and say it is studying but the lil f'er is 200 miles away and you have no way of knowing. then it turns 21ish and suddenly loves you again.

[saden1]

Originally Posted by over the mountain

This was a question I was wondering. Then one day I was at a bar (surprise surprise) with a buddy. the bar was empty except for us and the bartender we were cool with. then walks in this girl, she sits down starts pounding miller lites and is laughing and talking with the bartender whom she was friends with aswell.

im looking over at her and am like "damn, i wish that was my girl, cute, havin fun, not taking life to serious". i didnt mean a girl like that, i meant that girl. something inside of me just said thats the one right there for ya buddy.

at the time i was living with another girl, a total bitch. i tried breaking up with her many times to no avail, she was a she-devil. one day she said she was pregnant, had this black n white sonogram of a fetus in a picture frame engraved OTM's first baby. things just were not adding up. a few weeks later i found her invitro fertilization papers and kicked her out of the house.

a few weeks later, i was at that same bar, the miller lite girl was there, i took her out to dinner and since then we have been living together.

i guess my point is, and im sure you heard this before b/c i did, if you have to ask the question of "is this the one" or "how do you know", well then my friend, you already know the answer.

when you meet the one, you will know. she will knock you to the floor. you will have no doubts. your world, your life, your existence, what you want to do on any given night suddenly have the same answer. shes your world, your life, you exist to protect and grow old with her, your doing her on any given night.

thats where i am now. the whole kids thing is the next step. what we have now is perfect, i have ideas of watching my brothers and others with their kids and how that just gives two people who love each another, even more intense focus of that love . . . but man, freeak, screaming kids, no money for the honey, your life is suddenly about this lil baby that is a creation and extension of you and your lady. and all this lil love child does is scream and poop. then at 3-4 it gets all demanding. then at 13 it tells you it hates your guts every day. then at 18 it garnishes your wages so it can get drunk and party and say it is studying but the lil f'er is 200 miles away and you have no way of knowing. then it turns 21ish and suddenly loves you again.

LOOOL....did she beat you too?

[firstdown]

Originally Posted by over the mountain

This was a question I was wondering. Then one day I was at a bar (surprise surprise) with a buddy. the bar was empty except for us and the bartender we were cool with. then walks in this girl, she sits down starts pounding miller lites and is laughing and talking with the bartender whom she was friends with aswell.

im looking over at her and am like "damn, i wish that was my girl, cute, havin fun, not taking life to serious". i didnt mean a girl like that, i meant that girl. something inside of me just said thats the one right there for ya buddy.

at the time i was living with another girl, a total bitch. i tried breaking up with her many times to no avail, she was a she-devil. one day she said she was pregnant, had this black n white sonogram of a fetus in a picture frame engraved OTM's first baby. things just were not adding up. a few weeks later i found her invitro fertilization papers and kicked her out of the house.

a few weeks later, i was at that same bar, the miller lite girl was there, i took her out to dinner and since then we have been living together.

i guess my point is, and im sure you heard this before b/c i did, if you have to ask the question of "is this the one" or "how do you know", well then my friend, you already know the answer.

when you meet the one, you will know. she will knock you to the floor. you will have no doubts. your world, your life, your existence, what you want to do on any given night suddenly have the same answer. shes your world, your life, you exist to protect and grow old with her, your doing her on any given night.

thats where i am now. the whole kids thing is the next step. what we have now is perfect, i have ideas of watching my brothers and others with their kids and how that just gives two people who love each another, even more intense focus of that love . . . but man, freeak, screaming kids, no money for the honey, your life is suddenly about this lil baby that is a creation and extension of you and your lady. and all this lil love child does is scream and poop. then at 3-4 it gets all demanding. then at 13 it tells you it hates your guts every day. then at 18 it garnishes your wages so it can get drunk and party and say it is studying but the lil f'er is 200 miles away and you have no way of knowing. then it turns 21ish and suddenly loves you again.

She is named the miller lite girl because she has a beer belly and always drinking miller lite? Sounds like a real catch.

[over the mountain]

FD watch what you type my friend, you know better. she drinks miller lite, doesnt have a beer belly.

[firstdown]

Originally Posted by over the mountain

FD watch what you type my friend, you know better. she drinks miller lite, doesnt have a beer belly.

You do know I was joking? We need pics to confrim.

[SBXVII]

Originally Posted by CRedskinsRule

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Well..... he's basically correct. I can't figure out the whole "18 and garnishing of wages" thing unless he's talking about college?

I had a discussion with my brother this weekend about how it's funny to hear 20 y/o's talking about working their butts off so they can retire at 40. lol. My fist thought was.... yeah nice thought, wait till they have kids, then it's all the school supplies, then it's a car, the insurance for the car, college, and god knows probably after college they will need cash here and there cause the market is not booming. My thought was, talk retirement all you want but you aint retiring. there will be too many bills later to retire.

EDIT: and I didn't even mention if they have girls they have to pay for the wedding. lol. I'm so glad I have boys. lol.

[firstdown]

Originally Posted by SBXVII

Well..... he's basically correct. I can't figure out the whole "18 and garnishing of wages" thing unless he's talking about college?

I had a discussion with my brother this weekend about how it's funny to hear 20 y/o's talking about working their butts off so they can retire at 40. lol. My fist thought was.... yeah nice thought, wait till they have kids, then it's all the school supplies, then it's a car, the insurance for the car, college, and god knows probably after college they will need cash here and there cause the market is not booming. My thought was, talk retirement all you want but you aint retiring. there will be too many bills later to retire.

EDIT: and I didn't even mention if they have girls they have to pay for the wedding. lol. I'm so glad I have boys. lol.

Wait until they get their first big pay check and find that uncle sam feels he knows how to spend their money better and takes 1/3 of their check. Then all that feel ggod stuff they thought was so great does not seem so great anymore to about 1/2 of them. Then they find out when they retire that uncle sam wants to tax their income that they have already paid taxes on once before. Or that their SS that was going to help them retire was spent on sgl. mothers with 5 kids from five different dads and is now running out.

[KLHJ2]

My advice is F**k her. When you get done F***ing her, then F**k her again. Wash rinse repeat. You F**k her as many times as you possibly can before she leaves. If you don't you will regret it for the rest of your life. Screw all the rules about not wanting to get too attached or whatever. You are already losing her, why punish yourself even more? You ride that chick like the ride that is getting shut down at the amusement park.

When she is gone, then you move on. Until then you should be unloading white ink all over her splat tat. I don't care if she is seeing somebody else because unless he is going with her it is not serious and you were there first.

[12thMan]

Okay, I'm just catching up on all the posts. This is interesting.

Thanks for all the input guys, this is good stuff. GMScud, I love the Hess reference!

So we're texting back and forth last night about mutual contacts that may help her with this event today, and I'm thinking nothing has changed. This morning we're on the phone talking like business as usual. Following the convo, I told her that the 2 per week thing was fools gold and I was really deceiving myself and leaving myself open to heartbreak. I told her I want a solid month or two off and zero communications. She was kicking and screaming bloody murder, rightfully accused me of changing my mind and that had she known I was going to take this much time off she would have never had sex with me. Ouch! She goes on to say she didn't want to do this over the phone, but in person. Okay, fine.

She's being totally manipulative in my opinion.

So I was meeting a few folks in the Dupont area to watch the second half of the World Cup and she met me there, but was avoiding the conversation the entire time. When the place cleared out we sat down and talked it through. Well I was doing all the talking. Basically I repeated the same thing, it's silly for me to pretend I don't have feelings yet still talk twice per week. Long story short, she's not fine with how things went down.

Get this, she was thinking about inviting me to a wedding out of town in a couple of weeks. Yeah, head scratcher but that's who I'm dealing with.

Someone asked the ages of the two ladies. This one is 32 going on 33 (very cute) and my former girl is 46. So there's a big gap. I'm almost exactly between the two of them.

[12thMan]

Her reason for wanting to maintain normal contact is that she considers this a special and unique friendship. I deflected to one of our mutual female friends and she said that I know her better and I'm always the first person she calls. She acknowledged that this is selfish on her part, but she's standing firm that this isn't fair.

Basically this all sounds like the dick in the glass routine by Chris Rock. Except I went from friend to lover and now back to friend.

Anyway, that's where things are for now. We're not going to speak unless we run into each other or it's a life changing decision she's making. We'll see.

To be continued...