So I Started Seeing This Girl....

[djnemo65]

Ouch buddy. Sounds like a train wreck. The fact that she made a point to specify that your dinner date was just a friends thing is not a good sign. To put it in crude biological terms, she is not thinking of you as a potential mate.

In a situation like this the worst thing you can do is give some speech about how much you have in common and how into her you are, as if you can convince her to like you. This will creep her out and send her running. It also reeks of desperation. I mean, does she feel you really know her? That kind of heavy stuff comes later in relationship, once you have gotten past the surface of somebody and established real intimacy. Anyway, you should just be cool and relaxed around her, and then the next time you are alone together make a move. If she rejects you, no big deal. You betray no hurt, you express with your body language and confidence that she has no power over you.

Easier said than done right? But its the only way. At this point I think your best strategy for winning her over is to get a girlfriend who is way hotter and cooler than her. That always works. In lieu of that, I would suggest not getting too hung up on her, and focusing on ways to improve yourself. Women love a self-assured man who is completely independent, and it sounds like at this point your are giving away your power to her.

Holla, let me know how it turns out.