advice needed...

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Originally Posted by jsarno

That's good to know, thanks.

I have not met their biological father yet, and that doesn't appear to be in the immediate future, but i am sure it will happen at some point. I will have to put myself in his shoes when that does happen. I can only hope we can be civil.
What recommendations / advice do you have for me to help with my first encounter with the bio-father? What was good / bad in your experience?

Not sure how her x feels at this time but I'd give it some time for him to cool down if thats needed and then I would give him a call. Tell him how you feel about not trying to take his place and all that stuff. I would also offer to let him tell you how he feels about whats going on and let him ask questions about you. If your up front about things and you make him comfortable talking with you things could go much smoother with the children. Its when people do not comunicate that things get worse instead of getting better. I would not be surprised if he tells you off but if you tell him you understand how he feels there is only so much he can say as you would feel the same way if thing where reverse.