understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Well.........something is obviously WAY the F... up and you are not being told. The errands and hanging out at mom and dads makes me suspicious. You have to much invested at this point not to ride it out?

The game plan is to f*ck all that being nice shit....time to be a man and say:


I am disgusted by the way you're acting. Things need to change and are going to change around here.
I'm not sleeping on the couch again, you are more than welcome to sleep at your parents.
I need intestacy on the regular. If I don't get it from you I am leaving your ass within a week.

From the sound of it, this chick is mean spirited and you might be better off without her.

Yup. I definitely lean towards this.

Solid- you are letting her walk all over you. Stop. She's holding you emotionally hostage. Walking around on eggshells in your own house when you've done nothing wrong is a bunch of crap. It's pretty obvious if you come at her with a big attitude she'll probably flip on you, but you've gotta be stern.

You know her better than any of us. Time to sit her down and get some answers. You don't deserve this.

Between TMC's dropping mama at the airport thread, the vasectomy thing, and now this, the Parking Lot has taken on a Dr. Phil kind of feel.

Good luck man.

Wow man, I dont know what to say. You need to confront her and ask her WTF is the problem and to lay down the truth.

Wow man, I dont know what to say. You need to confront her and ask her WTF is the problem and to lay down the truth.

At least it was only a 40 oz. At first I thouht he meant a 40 pack and I couldn't help but think "You are goinng to die from drinking shitty beer before the alcohol poisioning sets in"

The game plan is to f*ck all that being nice shit....time to be a man and say:


I am disgusted by the way you're acting. Things need to change and are going to change around here.
I'm not sleeping on the couch again, you are more than welcome to sleep at your parents.
I need intestacy on the regular. If I don't get it from you I am leaving your ass within a week.

From the sound of it, this chick is mean spirited and you might be better off without her.I hope he doesn't come at her with #3 or he may get it.

Intestacy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intestacy)

LOL.

Seriously though, the other guys are giving you good advice. If you two can't communicate together and she's going to pull the things she's been, you deserve happiness and it sounds unless there's a drastic turnabout you wil be finding it elsewhere.

I hope he doesn't come at her with #3 or he may get it.

Intestacy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intestacy)

LOL.

Seriously though, the other guys are giving you good advice. If you two can't communicate together and she's going to pull the things she's been, you deserve happiness and it sounds unless there's a drastic turnabout you wil be finding it elsewhere.

LOL... I blame swype.

The game plan is to f*ck all that being nice shit....time to be a man and say:


I am disgusted by the way you're acting. Things need to change and are going to change around here.
I'm not sleeping on the couch again, you are more than welcome to sleep at your parents.
I need intimacy on the regular. If I don't get it from you I am leaving your ass within a week.


From the sound of it, this chick is mean spirited and you might be better off without her.

I agree with everything except #3.
It won't be worth it if she isn't into it and you will be a jerk for forcing her.

I hate to be a dick... Is she seeing someone else? Does she just leave randomly to run errands for a few hours?

I hate to say end a marriage but you are a young guy without any kids...

Listen to me young man. I am 43 years old married to a 29 year old woman. We have sex at least 4 times a week. If your wife has all of a sudden changed after a trip, there could have been something that happened to her that she doesn't feel comfortable with telling you. The main reason the sexual relationship in marriages deminishes is because it becomes too redundant in sexual positions. If you are not willing to keep your sex life exciting by having sex in different places in the house or different positions other than missionary it might light a fire. Most importantly ask her what likes the most in bed and what she likes the least. Then make it happen more and often.

Actually never mind. This woman is crazy. She lashes out for, well I wouldn't say no reason, but I'm guessing it's not a good one. Make sure your finances are in order and get a good divorce attorney. Just remember when you start dating again not to complain about your ex-wife. Women tend to frown upon that, plus it's a mood killer to complain about ex's. You're lucky you don't have kids.

Anyway I feel for you Snake.

The game plan is to f*ck all that being nice shit....time to be a man and say:


I am disgusted by the way you're acting. Things need to change and are going to change around here.
I'm not sleeping on the couch again, you are more than welcome to sleep at your parents.
I need intimacy on the regular. If I don't get it from you I am leaving your ass within a week.


From the sound of it, this chick is mean spirited and you might be better off without her.

Seriously.... I still think that a month is still a little early to start really doing anything drastic (I know you said it was like 32 days).... but eventually somethings gotta give. As others have stated, this is going beyond sex at this point... clearly something is either going on or is wrong.

And not for nothing, but if she's going to her parents house often, would it be nuts for you to stop by when she's over there? I mean I hope she's not cheating on you, but if thats a common theme, you might want to stop in or drive by to check it out.