jsarno
07-10-2007, 05:27 PM
I'm glad you got where you are by working hard but I bet you if you think for a moment you can name 3 crucial events or opportunities in your life you can attribute your success to.
While I can easily name 3 "forks in the road", I can name more than that too. However, each time I didn't always know it was a fork. I relied on my wisdom and sometimes prayer, and intelligence, and knowledge of the bible to guide me to the right side of the fork. Also, if you make the wrong decision, then go back. It's VERY rare that a decision you make is soooo bad that it ruins your life and you can't go back. There are some like murder etc, but those are so obviously bad that you're not very smart. I have made just as many good choices as bad choices, but the key is, I rectify the poor choices. I don't dwell on them, I change them. (through hard work and dedication)
On the flip side, you can give me ANY scenario (as long as I can ask questions about it) and I can tell you where they failed along the way. I know that sounds arrogant, but we have become a country so focused on the negatives, you then use your negativity to make decisions. It's like when you jump in the water and you see a shark, the first thing you will do is tense up and not move. That's what people do when they make a poor decision in life. They freeze, then they never get mobile again cause they are too worried about making another choice. (thus negativity takes over)
Every person that is homeless, or in the gutter made some poor choices that led to that. Every person in jail made poor choices that led to that as well. Every person that is dirt poor made very poor decisions to be that way.
Now I'm not saying that an unfortunate event couldn't happen out of the blue...they happen. But how do you handle it?
Do I feel bad when a tornado takes out a trailer park in Oklahoma? Not really. They knew the risks of living there...it was their choice. If you noticed when someone asked me why I wanted to move to Denver, I made many reasons, but one of them is "no natural disasters happen there". Those that make conscious decisions to reduce risk and maximize opportunity become successful. Again I feel compelled to say that bad things can and do happen. A tornado could hit Aurora,CO right now...would I feel for the people there...YES. That would be an anomoly. Do I feel bad for the people that perished in the 9/11 attacks...absolutely. They went to work one day trying to get ahead in life, or survive in life and they had no way of knowing that crazy people would fly into them and kill them. Had they known and stayed, then they would be stupid. You are who you are and you're at where you're at in life 100% because of your choices. Sorry I believe that whole heartedly.
I do recommend you read or watch "the secret". They actually say the same thing. I had already believed it before I read it, but it solidified my belief. Stop focusing on what has happened to you, and start focusing on what you want to happen to you.
While I can easily name 3 "forks in the road", I can name more than that too. However, each time I didn't always know it was a fork. I relied on my wisdom and sometimes prayer, and intelligence, and knowledge of the bible to guide me to the right side of the fork. Also, if you make the wrong decision, then go back. It's VERY rare that a decision you make is soooo bad that it ruins your life and you can't go back. There are some like murder etc, but those are so obviously bad that you're not very smart. I have made just as many good choices as bad choices, but the key is, I rectify the poor choices. I don't dwell on them, I change them. (through hard work and dedication)
On the flip side, you can give me ANY scenario (as long as I can ask questions about it) and I can tell you where they failed along the way. I know that sounds arrogant, but we have become a country so focused on the negatives, you then use your negativity to make decisions. It's like when you jump in the water and you see a shark, the first thing you will do is tense up and not move. That's what people do when they make a poor decision in life. They freeze, then they never get mobile again cause they are too worried about making another choice. (thus negativity takes over)
Every person that is homeless, or in the gutter made some poor choices that led to that. Every person in jail made poor choices that led to that as well. Every person that is dirt poor made very poor decisions to be that way.
Now I'm not saying that an unfortunate event couldn't happen out of the blue...they happen. But how do you handle it?
Do I feel bad when a tornado takes out a trailer park in Oklahoma? Not really. They knew the risks of living there...it was their choice. If you noticed when someone asked me why I wanted to move to Denver, I made many reasons, but one of them is "no natural disasters happen there". Those that make conscious decisions to reduce risk and maximize opportunity become successful. Again I feel compelled to say that bad things can and do happen. A tornado could hit Aurora,CO right now...would I feel for the people there...YES. That would be an anomoly. Do I feel bad for the people that perished in the 9/11 attacks...absolutely. They went to work one day trying to get ahead in life, or survive in life and they had no way of knowing that crazy people would fly into them and kill them. Had they known and stayed, then they would be stupid. You are who you are and you're at where you're at in life 100% because of your choices. Sorry I believe that whole heartedly.
I do recommend you read or watch "the secret". They actually say the same thing. I had already believed it before I read it, but it solidified my belief. Stop focusing on what has happened to you, and start focusing on what you want to happen to you.